Would love some advice please. I have an 8 year old son who is at a local junior school. School staff have always described him as 'very bright', 'intelligent', 'capable' etc. But he is under-achieving and behaviour seems to be an issue. He is by no means physically challenging, he is not an aggressive boy in anyway, is not unkind to others in words or actions or rude. He can be a bit silly, seems to struggle with concentration, gets distracted, always seems to get drawn into matters that are not his concern but gets the blame for it. He is having difficulty making friends and keeping them and is often alone and loitering at break times.
On a personality level, he is very imaginative and creative, loves to read and enjoys music. He is obsessed with anything scientific, especially natural sciences. He has been very strong at maths, but has recently been put down a maths group, which has dented his confidence. He can be very stubborn and struggles to listen. Sometimes he is so much in his own world I wonder if he even hears! He does have friends and enjoys his peer company very much, but can sometimes be a bit awkward and terribly shy in the company of others and seems to lack social airs and graces. He seems to be emotionally quite immature for his age but intellectually much more advanced. He is physically very agile and has loads of energy, often struggling to get to sleep at night.
Our home atmosphere can be tense and stressed at times as we have a younger son and the boys together can be 'high maintenance'!!! We can already see that the younger child is perhaps a less complex character and is in many ways more 'sensible' and 'chilled out' that his older brother.
We totally appreciate all kids are different and love our children dearly for all that they are and will be. But we get the sense our 8 year old is swimming against the tide, for want of a better metaphor and its very hard to know how best to support him.
It is a confused picture and I do not know what to do. I have talked to school and his teacher and they do not suggest there is anything 'wrong', but that he needs to mature and is under-performing.
Is this just the behaviour of an 8 year old boy making the transition to a 9 year old or should I seek some help from educational psychology, GP, behavioural specialists?
Any advice hugely appreciated, thank you!
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sunnyday2015 · 13/01/2015 10:05
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