During a class where they seemed to be talking about anger, my ds said that "when mummy gets angry she shouts. And uses bad words".
School called the SS and today I was called in. The original call was made last Monday, we were told last Wednesday and today, I got a call at 1pm to say that the SW was arriving at 2pm to talk with ds and if I wanted I could be there too. But I didn't have to. So, I rearranged my afternoon and hot footed it into school for 2pm. SW eventually turned up at 2.30pm.
They chatted to ds and then called me into the room. I offered a handshake and eye contact where upon I was shown a lip wristed wet offering and no eye contact.
I said that whilst a i appreciate the situation, we are now a week on and i have rearranged my afternoon, only to be made to wait. She told me she made the appt for 2.30pm. School actually disagreed with her and said we'd all been waiting . No apology, only told she was having her lunch.
We talked about the situation and the SW said that she takes shouting and bad language very seriously. She also threw in "please calm down", and then said she'd have to come and check our home. I was calm.
She also wanted to make an apt "now" to come and see the house. I explained that my dh should be present and I did not know when he was available. SW then said she needed to do this asap as her manager was expecting a report. I asked for her her email, as I wanted this request in writing, along with how long she was going to take, as well as what the nature, purpose and intent of her visit. And what authority she had to make this request. All in writing. She was not happy with that statement, but did give me her email.
I did remind the school that I was present at this meeting without my dh or an neutral party. Also, for the record, dh and I have a happy life with ds and any shouting or bad language used is done so on an infrequent basis.
So I guess my question to any knowledgeable folk out there , is , is this normal SW behaviour? I have never, ever been involved with ss before.
Do they push you a bit to check reactions etc?
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