DD plays in a music group at school. On Monday she came home with a note in her music book that said "Christmas concert, Thursday 11th December". DD explained that the music group was playing in the school Christmas concert. This was the first we'd heard of said concert, so we asked what time it was and if parents could come. DD didn't know. We assumed it must be in school time and no parents or we would have been told otherwise.
Fast forward to today and DD has brought home a letter which says the school Christmas concert will take place on Thursday 11th December at 6.30pm and families may request up to 2 tickets. We are now assuming this is the concert that she is playing in.
Questions
- is it reasonable to expect the school to have actually TOLD us properly that DD was playing in said concert (their music group is run by a peri teacher who's not even a member of school staff) and (more pertinently) have checked that she could actually come? (as it happens we have other commitments that night which DH is loathe to unpick on the basis that we don't even officially know that DD is playing in the concert and we haven't said she can come)
- should the school have obtained formal permission for a child to attend an out of school event?
We would like to complain to school about the way this has been handled (and yes, we realise this is an extra, and are grateful to the staff for giving up time, but it should have been organised so much better ...) but want to know if we have unreasonable expectations!