Dd is in yr 6. There are 12 girls in the class and there have been friendship difficulties bubbling away since reception but dd has always been happy at school. Lately though she is moody and says she doesn't like school anymore and hasn't got any friends.
We've talked a lot and of course I only have dd's version of events. I am not suggesting that she is absolutely perfect but she is a very kind hearted and forgiving girl (she has to be, when she has a brother with autism and ADHD!) there have been incidents like girls making groups where names have to be on the list and there not being enough room for everybody. The 'queen bee' making up all the rules and deciding everything, people are randomly thrown out of the group for undisclosed misdemeanours. Yesterday dd said she and queen bee had made up after falling out. Apparently, Queen bee had forgiven dd, I asked what for and dd said she didn't know!
Outside of school things are happening like being suddenly excluded from online chats on whatsapp. When dd asked the girl in question (not queen bee this time although prob trying to be) why she'd blocked her, she couldn't come up with a reason. Another time, while 5 girls were in a group chat 3 of them discussed plans for a party that dd and another girl weren't invited to. When dd asked them to start a different chat if they wanted to talk about the party because they felt left out they said she was 'just jealous' and she was being horrible. Reportedly someone said that they were going to 'get their dad on her'.
These are a few examples and there are some more again, relatively minor incidents but I don't want dd to accept them as these situations only get worse if they're not dealt with.
It seems from what she says that there are a few girls who are practising their manipulation skills on dd and if she stands up for herself at all they get emotional (crying when adults are present or angry when they're alone) until she shuts up and it blows over. I worry that dd is setting herself up to be forever in this position.
I have talked to her class teacher today and she says there is nothing that they can do about things that happen outside school but that she will talk to the group about being kind and considerate. I wonder what I should be doing?
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Yr 6, Girls, 'friendship' and manipulation
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twoandahalftimesthree · 04/11/2014 17:23
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