Starting school still in nappies...?(12 Posts)
Both of my boys have ASD and started school in nappies (DS2 still is, but he's so not self conscious!)
Are trousers or leggings a possibility, to minimise pull up flashing? I know a few girls who wear short leggings under their school skirts because they like wearing skirts, but would rather cover up a little, so if uniform strictness doesn't preclude that possibility, it may be something to try. Next and M&S both do plain legging style cycle shorts in their boys' uniform range - might be perfect for covering up a pull up until it's warm enough for tights.
Can your girls wear pants over pull ups? Just to make them less obvious when the girls do that 4 year old thing of sitting legs akimbo in assembly or class or rolling around the playground with skirts over their heads.
Its quite common for small girls at our local school to wear knee length leggings under their summer frock. Or for them to wear shorts or trousers.
I am not surprised you are worried - it sounds like such a big leap.
However, think of it this way. Your twins leap around and are excited and don't care. The other children will be the same. At some point down the line other children will notice and difference will be challenging but your children might have no issue by that time or might themselves have developed strategies to cope.
The school will more than likely have dealt with similar and so hopefully your worry is interest paid for a debt your don't yet have!
Best of luck
Also - on PE day, if they're wearing skirts, they could wear their PE shorts under their skirts to make getting changed less embarrassing for them, if that's how they would feel.
There was a little boy in dd2s class who had been kept back a year because of his additional needs. He was in pull-ups and none of the kids batted an eyelid. They just don't worry and then they get used to it.
Crying is ok. I am a secondary teacher and parents still cry - it is fine.
Engage closely with the staff and ensure there are regular reviews and updates. Primary teachers will be very attuned to the children getting older and more aware of difference so as long as the relationship is there you will be able to plan together for every stage.
Get culottes. M&S, Asda etc do them. They won't then flash anything. Loads of girls at our school have them and did so in nursery. They can just pull them down as elasticated waists etc Get trousers in winter
I'm guessing the TA will help your dd's with changing pull ups? My dd has additional needs and wasn't toilet trained till 5 yrs old. She has her own TA who I know was very discreet when changing her and would take her out of the classroom to get changed for PE. To be honest at that age the other kids were too busy getting themselves changed to even notice Dd had gone out of the class.
If you are worried about their privacy maybe mention it to their teacher.
Also agree about wearing dark coloured cycling shorts under skirts or dresses or would trousers be an option.
Also when I sent in pull ups and wipes I put them in a toiletries bag so they weren't obvious.
It's lovely to hear they are looking forward to school.
It's worth remembering that there will probably be several children in the class without medical issues who still wear pull-ups at night. And there will likely be someone that wets themselves a lot during the day too and probably someone on movicol who has poo accidents. Reception staff are very used to dealing with toilet issues in a sensitive way. The children are generally very accepting and are curious, rather than mean, about differences.
What the others have said. In reception nearly half the class will have accidents in the first week. Some will do so daily. The same number again aren't going to be able to do up buttons. They are four years old. It is OK. The other children aren't even likely to notice. They spend half the day in free play running in and out of the classroom. Get to know your TA and have some really good chats with her through out the first few weeks. Also make sure you chat with the SENCo. Don't worry about sounding silly or emotional. The teachers are used to it. Far more parents cry on them the children do.
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