Ds is in Y2 and over a period of time has clashed with another boy in the classroom. They are extremely similar with regards to ability and it's as if they are constantly trying to compete with eachother. It's got to a stage now where ds and the other boy have been told that they can no longer play with eachother at playtime as they bring in their 'spats' into the classroom and the teacher has to settle them down for a period of time.
It seems it's neither one or the other, they're both at fault and I'm finding the whole situation increasingly frustrating. I've tried talking to ds about it but I can't obviously when he's at school.
So my question is, how do you deal with this kind of situation in your classroom?
Make sure they sit far apart. Lots of Circle Times on dealing with difficult situations and people we find it hard to get along with. Lots of praise for good behaviour, and especially co-operation rather than competition. Working in co-operative groups where the success of the group is dependent on the participation of all members. Reward aspects of work other than who does best, scores highest, etc.
Keeping them apart in class. Encouraging them to be apart at playtime. I've had decent success in defusing very intense relationships by setting up 'buddies' from older classes for each child, to give them someone to go to at playtime rather than being drawn back to their 'frenemy'.