Support thread for parents burying their heads in sandpits with PFBs off to school(274 Posts)
Am I the only one, stood here looking at my DD and thinking,
'nooooooooo, you can't be ready, you can't be about to leave me forever, they can't have you, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...'
I'm fine with it, really. It's just, well, there's only three and a half weeks to go.
How have others dealt with it? How will you deal with it? How will I react to it? Glad of the peace? Sad at the thought that someone else is now teaching her? Missing her company? Grateful for the time alone with DS?
And how do people deal with school politics? And then there's all those frightful stories I've read on here about dealing with other parents!
If you've been there, please come and help us. If you too are sitting around, pretending it's not about to happen, come here to carry on the pretence.
I had to take him to Westfield yesterday after school, and was anticipating a number of tantrums, but with the bribery of a cupcake he was remarkably good! Getting him to stay in bed, however, was another thing altogether.
And yes, wheredidIputit, thanks for asking - after I ranted at the head teacher she rallied the troops and put a care plan in place. Two people are now trained to sort out his eye, and have even done it a few times.
I'm so very proud of him. When he went to school two weeks ago he was holding a pencil in his fist, and refused to write or draw as he 'couldn't do it right'. Now he's writing his own name, kind of, and drawing pictures of himself. And he's made three friends, and been invited to a birthday party! He trots in every morning without a backwards glance. <wipes tear>
Hello everyone, glad to hear tales of wonder and joy.
My DD has settled in beautifully - we actually have a real life invitation to a play date tomorrow, with DS also invited as the other children coming also have siblings about his age, and I'm soooo excited for her!!!
However, I, too, have noticed a change in her behaviour outside of school. Others here have pointed out the maniacal state, a certain hyperactivity. Mine is exhibiting her change by having ma-hoo-sive tantrums at the slightest thing...
Apologies to anyone in John Lewis last Tuesday...
DS has gone to a friend's to play this afternoon. Friend's mum took him home with her at pickup. This is a massive deal for me, it's the first time he's played at someone else's house without me or DH being there. But DS was unbelievably excited about it this morning, I could hear him singing to himself ' I'm going to [friend's] house todaaaay '
With three whole hours at school this morning and then playing with best friend, I'm expecting a very tired DS later this afternoon.
Feeling a bit down today. There is a mood board in DD's classroom: 'how are you feeling today'. She put herself on worried, then when she saw all the other children were on happy, moved herself. I told her it's okay to feel worried sometimes. Then I settled her at her table and the other children were writing beautiful numbers while she wrote mostly squiggles and her name. I don't really mind, I praise the effort and know she will get there in her own time, but the other children were critiquing each other's work! I just kissed DD and whispered in her ear and left, but am feeling sad now.
Sorry to hear that sparrowfart. Do you have a home-school book that you can write a note to the teacher in?
Hi Quenelle, not as such but I think I'll check in with teacher today after school. Teacher and TA know that DH has been away and that DD has been a bit sad at times this week.
DD is doing really well actually; she can be a bit 'lively' but she has been coping really well, and I am proud of her. I think deep down I am nervous that she will be behind her very able peers and I don't want her enthusiasm and confidence to be crushed. Sounds a bit wet when I put it like that but I suspect that's what got me down! I think I need to lighten up a bit!!
We have a little notebook that lives in DS's bookbag. The teacher/TAs and parents use it for writing messages to each other. Very useful, simple and cheap.
It would be good if the teacher made a bit of a fuss of your daughter when she sees her doing something that she is good at, to give her confidence a boost. But I guess that would be teaching teacher how to suck eggs a bit...
Sorry, sparrow, can't remember if you mentioned before, but is your DD's school a one form entry or two?
Oh, ffs, only just coping with this milestone...
DD's got a loose tooth. I think I may cry now.
How's your DD doing now Sparrow? Did you talk to her teacher?
MrsWembley loose tooth?! <faints>
DS went running up to his teacher when we went in this morning and I heard him say something like ‘Mrs X! Do you know…’ I didn’t hear the rest but I saw her laugh. I asked her and she said it was something about him and his mummy in bed...
I'm expecting a lot of 'family business' to be shared with the school from now on
loose tooth already MrsW?! I think I'd cry too!
How are everyone's DC doing? hope everyone's settled in ok and made friends. I still can't believe how much my little baby girl has grown up since starting school!
I can't remember if it was someone here or on another thread, anyway, it was from a teacher, who said, 'don't believe everything your child tells you about us and we won't believe everything your child tells us about you...'
It bears repeating (a lot).
Hello, Adikia. <waves>
Yes, I really did nearly cry. Not a good feeling, not wanting your little girl to grow up. Of course I want her to, just not yet...
A few more years of them being little would be lovely wouldn't it? DD told me this mornng that she doesn't need to hold my hand anymore because she's old enough to walk propery and stay away from the road. I did try telling her that I needed looking after but i got told not to be stupid.
Sorry been a bit
obsessed preoccupied with birthday preparations.
Quenelle I haven't specifically spoken to DD's teacher, as I decided I was probably worrying over nothing the other day. DD seems to be doing just fine and, talking to the other parents, is not the only one having a wee wobble now and then. DD's teacher is lovely, and very good at reassuring the children (and parents)!
Mrs W It's a two form entry. DD seems to have friends in both classes, and some older ones too, so at least I know she is mixing at playtime.
DD told me not to cry like a baby, Adikia - not that I was even crying!
Oh, and as an aside, I told my teacher that my mummy worked in a sweatshop when I was in primary school! Apparently that got a good laugh at the PTA meeting!
I love that
Glad to hear it was just a little wobble sparrow.
Thank-you for that, sparrow!
And the reason I asked about the two-form entry is that in DD's school (I found out only last week) the two classes are split by age.
In DD's school, they try to balance gender and age across the two groups, but I only know that because they told us at the open day.
I didn't have a clue what the letter codes on the home reading books were until another parent helpfully explained that the * books that their DS is on is the advanced group.
On the way into school this morning, I heard one year one boy say to another (talking about DD, who'd run ahead thankfully) saying 'ooh look, there's your girlfriend'!
*Boastful Parent Alert* DS has been given the first of his class's Headteacher's Awards for Science, for his extensive knowledge of Space. (He does know a lot about Space and will tell anyone about it who'll listen.)
As usual on Friday evening, we asked DS what he did at school and his response as usual was "Nuffink!" He didn't mention having his photo taken for display in his classroom and the main foyer, or standing up in assembly to be given the award
Sparrowfart I am definitely not ready for talk of girlfriends and boyfriends!
The timing wasn't good. I had just finished telling him that I couldn't be at the Harvest Festival to hear him sing this afternoon because I had to work but so and so's mummy was going to send me a photo and tell me all about it. When I saw the award I'm afraid I welled up and got a bit sniffy
We'll make a big fuss of him tonight.
Oh my, that's fabulous!
Well done to the school, too, for having awards like this and at such an early stage in their education! What a great start.
It is great isn't it? The teacher put a copy of the picture with the caption underneath in his bookbag so we have it up on our kitchen wall now.
We also got home yesterday to find a postcard (space-themed) from the teacher saying what a great start DS had had to the term. She said he's very polite and thoughtful and great fun to teach.
I strongly suspect the postcards will have been paid for out of her own pocket too.
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