Primary school insisting my child takes water not squash to school, despite there being a medical reason for it(782 Posts)
My ds is 10 and suffers from frequent migraines. He takes daily preventative meds for them, and we try hard to manage them by eliminating triggers.
Obviously, dehydration is a major trigger, and so I need to make sure he drink enough during the day. I send him to school with weak squash in his water bottle, as he is not overly keen on water, and so will not drink enough of it. I know this to be the case from seeing him drink at home.
School are kicking up an almighty fuss about it. I have spoken to them countless times explaining why he needs the squash, and have also written a letter insisting he be alowed it, abd again explained why.
Today he was pulled into the heads office because of the squash.
I went in after school and asked to see the head. I was told she could only speak to me for 2 minutes. She came out and right away knew why I was there. She just went on and on about many people not liking water and getting headaches, but that other kids would think it was ok for their child to bring in squash also.
She then said that my ds had promised earlier that day, to try and drink only water next week. So basically they got him to agree to this in a meeting with no parent present.
I explained again about his migraines, but she basically insisted and just said that ds had agreed now.
Is there anyting I can do about this ? I think their treatment of him and his condition is appaling. We have also had issues where they have made him wait for calpol when a headache starts.
Neat gin, usually, newmammy.
That what you wanted to hear?
Actually, I do hate squash. Quite what that has to do with a) upping a years old thread or b) what children may drink at school, I have no idea.
Zombie thread ffS. This kid will be in seniors now.
Is the squash sugar free? The school may be worried about sugar rush type behaviour?
Omg I can't believe these comments! Many of you would rather your children go thirsty instead of giving them squash? It's not the work of the devil you know. Sometimes, and please don't get the noose out here ladies, I give my children fizzy drinks! Yes way! And they are happy and healthy and hydrated and migraine free! Your school is ridic by the way! I'd like to see what the teachers drink!!
wtf is it with control freak teachers? If it's not uniforms it's drinks now? Seems like the teaching profession still attracts the same little hitlers that it did when I was at school. At least they can't actually legally beat the crap out of kids any more as they used to with us.
I realise that this is an old topic, but just in case anyone is searching for advice on this subject........
Firstly let me say that I am a migraine sufferer and the mother of a child who suffers from migraine.
If you have a child who suffers from migraines - please be aware that ALL squash drinks contains chemical additives which trigger migraines. The migraines may not come on immediately, but the chemicals build up in the body causing all sorts of problems, but for a migraine sufferer - they will exacerbate any migraine symptoms and the more they have in their bodies - the harder a migraine is to shake off. These chemicals need to be flushed out with WATER.
These chemicals can also be pretty addictive, so children can become almost dependant on them. Hence the craving for squash rather than water.
Please, please, please - encourage children to drink more water! Put ice cubes in it, put a slice of citrus fruit in it, or a little natural fruit juice. But limit the amount of squash they have and reduce the amount of health problems they could be developing.
Thanks for reading....x
Oh I was thinking about this yesterday too. Our school has just invested in 300 water bottles for children to keep in school so we can encourage them to drink more - amazing how many parents don't send one despite repeated requests.
OP, did you ever ask your GP for that letter? How did you get on?
I have a ten year old who has to have a certain level of fluid a day - not because of migraines but bladder issues. He's not a baby. Water is not unpleasant. I'd tell my son - drink the water and you won't get a headache. Squash has unneeded extras in it. IMO you're babying him.
He has to have fluids for medical reasons. He doesn't have to have squash for medical reasons - thats just him being fussy and you pandering to it.
I thought about this thread today as one of my new class handed me a bottle of J2O to open
I have better things to do with my time than go around sniffing the water bottles of the children in my class. However, you can rest assured that the other children will sniff it out from 20 paces and dob their mates in. I was told by several kids by break on the first day that "Harry has got juice, Mrs Clam."
"Harry" looked terrified/appalled and said "Sorry, my dad put filled it up. I've only just seen. I'll make sure it's water tomorrow."
Me: "OK, that's great, don't worry. We're just trying to avoid ants and spills at the moment"
This is a long thread, and TBH I haven't read all the way through!!
But seriously - the squash could very well be causing the migraines.
Most squashes, and all flavoured water contain sweeteners - and they cause the migraines - they should be banned in my opinion.
If I were the parent of 10 year old who refused to drink water at school. I would stay out of this TBH as far as chool is concerned and put my efforts into encouraging him to drink water in general. rules are rules and as a parent it is up to you to reinforce the schools rules. He is 10 he should be dealing with this by himself as far as school is concerned, send him in with water, if he suffers for this out of his own stubbornness he will have to learn to take responsibility for his own health needs.
Ignore them and send him in with squash anyway. Where is it written down it is compulsory to only have water? Rules. Pah.
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I would expect the GP to update her on additives in squash rather than say he must have it! Does OP know which additives you need to avoid if you are a migraine sufferer -and how carefully is she reading the labels?
Having now read quite a few articles about children and migraines I certainly wouldn't have them drinking squash.
Can I ask what people's opinion would be if the boy decided he only likes Pepsi? Or what you would say to another child,or children, in this class if they too decide the rules aren't right for them either ant they have a medical reason to drink Pepsi?
It would be interesting to hear from OP if she has asked GP for a medical letter stating that her DC must have squash. This was suggested immediately she first posted but I can't see that OP has confirmed if GP is willing to do this. Surely the GP is the right person to determine if squash is a medical need or whether water would meet the requirement.
Certain things are triggers for migraine- red wine is a trigger for my DH.
I have just googled migraines and triggers- and squash could easily be one. Has OP worked out the triggers? Has she tried removing ones she thinks possible from the diet for a test?
Anyway presumably this won't be an issue for the next few weeks and the OP can seek advice from GP before next term.
Surely AICM a doctor would want him to drink the fluid, not merely be allowed access to it.
In my experience GPs aren't nearly so uptight about squash as people on this thread.
It's weakly flavoured water, not a gin and tonic in the bottle. I have had jobs where I could only drink/eat on breaks or lunch, but I was certainly never told by an employer that I could only drink water.
If it was me I would just tell him that the additives in squash are causing his migraines and his system needs pure water- problem solved.
I see it more that she has trained him to think he can only drink squash, to be honest! He was willing to have mature conversation with the head and make a sensible agreement: it's his mother who wants to undermine that because he can only drink squash.
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