Is it possible to do SILENT parenting?

[MyNewPassiveAggressiveNickname]

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A) fit in at school with his/her peers
B) learn things to support class room topics

By this I mean what silent things do you do - things they aren't particularly aware that you do?

I guess what I'm trying to say is how can you be a silent "pushy parent" - where neither your child, the teacher or other parents know you are being pushy - iykwim?

[WildRumpus]

Just support your child as well as you can without fretting over whether people think you are being "pushy".

[grumpygov]

I think lots of us do this TBH - ensure DCs get lots of experiences, and discuss them with them?

Make use of learning opportunities that crop up doing everyday things...Like going to the shop - here's a pound. Thats 100 pennies so so you have enough for an orange? a bar of chocolate? a comic - how many oranges could we buy with it etc etc.

Noticing and talking about signs, numbers, words, sharing out sweets between siblings, weighing things to bake with, collecting leaves and conkers to talk about life cycles and seasons.

I don't go overboard at all, but try to imagine what I might do if I was home educating to help them learn. Some days it is really good, sometimes we are all knackered and just put CBeebies on

[trinity0097]

Get them to bed on time!

I taught a child on Tuesday who was exhausted as he had been up until 3.30am reading and was up again at 7am. I mean reading should be encouraged, but not at the expense of a good night of sleep!

[ipadquietly]

Someone above mentioned sharing:

I was teaching my Y2 children 'division by sharing' this week, and waxed lyrical about how they 'do it whenever they share sweets with their friends - one for you, one for you, one for you'. Simples.

I was met with a sea of blankness.

Their lack of experience of fair sharing soon became apparent as they 'shared' their cubes in handfuls, each 'sharer' keeping the lion's share.

[dixiechick1975]

Keep on top of newsletters and calendar dates and when things are needed.

Right kit/uniform for the child eg if all the girls were cardigans don't insist your DD wears her brother's old jumper.

No child wants to be the only one in uniform on non uniform day or the only one who doesn't enter the decorate an easter egg contest.

Attend assembly if you can - our school has one a week parents can attend. Gives a real feel of what is going on.

Go on family outings to support what they are learning about.

[MTSgroupie]

DP and I will often discuss a current news story in front of the kids over dinner. We try to pick interesting stories as opposed to stuff like the monthly increase/decrease in GDP. Kids ask questions. A bit of history is then thrown in for perspective.

Tonight's was about the Boston bombing which led to Chechnya and Russia. From there Soviet Union and the cuting up of Europe after WWII. Ok it's all bite size knowledge but they got a history lesson without knowing it.