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A word with the teacher or a note from home?

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manchestermummy Sun 07-Apr-13 15:24:44

Sorry daft question alert. Dd1 yrR has been poorly over the Easter break with a urinary infection. We suspect it has been caused by holding her wee for hours and hours on end. We are working on this at hone, but we were advised to let her teacher know and to remind DD to go. I don't want to be the type of parent who demands a lot from teachers but this is really important. The teacher knows she has been unwell as it actually started at the end of last term (took three weeks for GP to test her sad).

Would I better to put in a letter that reminders to DD to go to the toilet would be a appreciated? Or a quiet word at the start of the day? I don't want to make a big fuss.

I know this is all rather PFB but I make no apologies!


NotTreadingGrapes Sun 07-Apr-13 15:26:16

Quiet word I reckon. Urine infections are horrid and not PFB at all! Hope she is completely better now!

Makingchanges Sun 07-Apr-13 15:27:39

I'm a teacher and would prefer you tell me. Start of day, especially first day back can be a little manic and I'm much more likely to remember if I have spoken to someone than if I get a note

manchestermummy Sun 07-Apr-13 15:28:16

She's getting there thanks. smile

manchestermummy Sun 07-Apr-13 15:29:13

Thanks making that's helpful. I just never know sometimes!

manchestermummy Sun 07-Apr-13 15:31:26

Oh and making would you think I was being a pain if I asked you to remind my Dd to go to the toilet? Teachers I know have more than enough to do and there are 33 in the class!

doublecakeplease Sun 07-Apr-13 15:34:16

Quiet word - definitely. Could teacher buddy her up with someone who could be her helper? Wouldn't be an embarrassment at their age and peer help can work wonders :-)

Periwinkle007 Sun 07-Apr-13 15:46:37

I think for something like this I would speak to the teacher and yes I think you could ask if she could possibly remind her to go to the toilet. My daughter has just got glasses and I am going to have to ask her teacher to remind her to put them on for the right bits of work initially whilst she gets used to having them. Some children have eczema cream that has to be put on at lunchtime, some have to use inhalers during the school day and so on. It isn't like you are asking her to always do things for your child and so I really don't think the teacher will mind. If you were there every few days demanding something then that would be different but it is obvious from your post you aren't. Perhaps if your daughter has a lunchbox you could also put a note to your daughter in there reminding her that when she has finished her lunch she should go before class.

Periwinkle007 Sun 07-Apr-13 15:48:07

sorry - just realised she is in reception so perhaps a note in her lunchbox wouldn't work if she isn't reading yet.

The teachers definitely won't mind at that age, they should have at least 1 TA as well and certainly the TAs in my daughters class are excellent at keeping track of glasses, medical problems, peculiarities and so on.

manchestermummy Sun 07-Apr-13 17:14:48

Thanks all and periwinkle oddly enough my DD has also got glasses over the Easter break! At least those she has term told to wear all the time...!

manchestermummy Sun 07-Apr-13 17:15:08

Term? Told.

manchestermummy Sun 07-Apr-13 17:16:17

She could read something like "go for a wee" so I shall do that too!

Labro Sun 07-Apr-13 18:19:48

I'd have a quiet word and give a note in, that way all the staff know rather than just the class teacher and its 'on the register' in case they have a different teacher or TA for an activity etc

Labro Sun 07-Apr-13 18:20:52

I'd have a quiet word and give a note in, that way all the staff know rather than just the class teacher and its 'on the register' in case they have a different teacher or TA for an activity etc

freetrait Sun 07-Apr-13 20:45:37

Yes, I would do both. If you send a note in then it will be recorded. I think some teachers take written notes more seriously. Of course some will remember and act on a quiet word, but for others it might get lost with other parents' quiet words covering a whole host of things.

juniper9 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:01:47

I think a note is better as the teacher will keep it, and it might go in the pastoral file.

I tend to keep notes about medical matters in my folder so that the next teacher to inherit my folder can see if there's a pattern etc.

I'd also mention it directly, but I would do a note too.

verygentlydoesit Sun 07-Apr-13 21:07:32

I would do both- a quiet word with a note to back it up.

I realise you are concerned about being one of 'those' parents but IMO this is really important and you shouldn't be worried about discussing it with her teacher.

Could your DD wear anything on her wrist to remind her? On the days when DS needs to change his reading books he wears a football bracelet thing to remind him.

Sommink Mon 08-Apr-13 21:57:25

My dd (in reception) gets a lot of water infections. I was on top of them at home as I made sure she drank a lot and she has got very good at recognising the early signs herself.

As soon as she started school she began to complain that it was hurting when she weed. I went in and spoke to her teacher explaining that she needs to drink regularly (her water bottle was coming home untouched) and could they please remind her for me, as I didn't want her to either have an accident at school or be off sick. They were absolutely fantastic with her and built it into her school routine that she for example has free play in the morning then goes and has a quick drink, phonics lesson quick drink etc etc because they built it in so often for her even if she now forgets one of her "drink stops" there are enough in the day that she's still drinking plenty. She hasn't had an infection since Christmas and now ends up refilling her bottle most days smile

Pozzled Mon 08-Apr-13 22:09:01

Quiet word, definitely, with a note for their records as well if you feel it is needed.

I'm sure they'll be able to remind her occasionally. I had similar with my DD, also in reception. She was wetting herself due to utis, and the teacher and TA were excellent, both at reminding her and dealing with her with no fuss if she forgot.

BlackeyedSusan Mon 08-Apr-13 22:19:55

depends whether the teacher is better at remembering things heard or things read. go with both to mke sure when it is a health issue.

PastSellByDate Thu 11-Apr-13 03:00:19

Hi manchestermummy

great friend has DD with similar problem - and sadly ongoing. Still affecting her in Senior School. Complicated because most antibiotics won't work for her.

In primary school she arranged for her DD to regularly go straight to the loo at breaks and right after lunch. Helped a lot. In KS2 (there was no recess in PM) but she was allowed a 'convenience break' at 2 p.m. or so, when they switched over to another lesson - or mid-way through a long lesson.

The deal was she had to go straight to the girls and back to class swiftly and get right back to work. Because it was a privilege she never abused it and it seemed to help a lot (days off sick reduced by half).


mortifieddotcom Thu 11-Apr-13 11:11:34

As a teacher I would probably remember for the first few days but I have to admit it would probably slip my mind after that. Is there a TA attached to the class who could also remember to remind her? I find they are often better at remembering this kind of thing! Perhaps also a midday supervisor so she remembers to go at lunch time.

In reception it is likely the whole class go twice a day for toilet breaks anyway. Is she just not going? We take ours breaktime and just before lunch. They can obviously go whenever they ask at other times.

TheFogsGettingThicker Thu 11-Apr-13 13:16:16

Just wanted to add if your DD is getting a lot of water infections think about asking the surgery to refer her for an investigation to find out why?

It may be nothing, but it may be covering an underlying problem.(As with my DD)

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