She is in year 2, with a 2 class intake. Both classes are lovely but each has one child who is determined to ruin things for everyone / throw their weight around - to the point that they have quite an interesting reputation. School's attitude is that you are going to meet difficult people in life, so this is good practice. In every other year the pastoral care is fab, and the kids are not behaviourally challenging [sorry can't think of a better way to describe them].
All fine in theory, they say DD is doing absolutely nothing to be on the receiving end - and the kids in question just dish it out indiscriminately, and trust us we are dealing with it - but sanctions just go in one ear and out the other with these two kids. I've noticed that the quieter children who behave well and don't react seem to get it more than others who have a bit more of a don't mess with me attitude. She is putting a brave face on it, and not reacting to please the teacher, however I think she'll snap.
One girl has a great routine of "talk to the hand because the face ain't listening" - for the 'difficult' girl in the other class. Works really well according to her mum.
But I can't think what how tell DD to react to a boy who so far has spat repeatedly in her face, been verbally abusive, tripped her over (including under the teacher's nose - so he got punished then), shoving her over, hitting round the head with toys / playground equipment when she was trying to block him from hitting a reception boy (who are his favourite targets), hiding her gym kit (strangely reappeared as soon as I came up to the classroom and looked in his locker - but was very mouthy to me).
I need something that gives her a feeling of control, rather than feeling that she has to just stand there and take it, so she doesn't get into trouble for retaliating. I have told her she can try "Did you mean to be so rude / nasty?" ... especially if teachers are around . What else can she do?
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Anyone got any good responses that DD can use please
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hollyanthus · 11/03/2013 20:58
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