upset about dc 4(32 Posts)
Dc 4 has just informed me he is in the bottom group at maths.He really enjoys maths[ is doing key stage 1 this year].He says he is good at it and is the only one on the table who gets the right answers[as they are all thick].Anecdotally gets nearly all Bond papers right for his age and when tested recently he got a borderline 2a/3 in the stage 1 sats paper[wrong marks were due to poor exam technique].He has also told me that he is in the middle group at english [got a level 3 in the english stage 1]and is on Lime reading level [his teacher does not approve saying he is coming in at below white level in the very first stage 1 paper he ever did where he missed out 2 pages due to total inexperience]He has asked me tonight whether he is stupid?.He has always been very bright and has been early to do everything but gets bored when asked to do things again and again and i think switches off.Teachers have descibed him as brilliant at times but often disengaged.I am very concerned that he is being vastly underestimated and totally switched off at schoo[and the teacher is handling him extremely badly].What do i do?l
Yr 2, yes?
[not sure about you calling the other kids thick]
I'm not saying that,dc4 is,though his actual words were they are a bit stupid mummy.Yes,he is year 2.,
Get him to do 1 & 2 step word problems. You might find he can whizz through mental maths but cant think analatically while the "thick" ones can actually apply knowledge better albeit at a lower expectancy level?
I can't get past the thick or allowing him to call other kids stupid. Your ds might just be average ability. Maybe you need to build his confidence up a bit more. Has a knock on effect academically.
The difficulty with only knowing our own children and not all the other children in the class it is hard to know where they are meant to be positioned.
My youngest was top for Maths and English at his last school, this year he started at a new school and he's in the top set for Maths but not top of the set and in English he's in the middle of the middle set.
He had a little self-esteem hit with thinking he was no longer the best, but we and his teacher explained to him that he was still performing a long way above average.
It just so happens that the class he's in have a high majority that are perfoming above average and a number are performing 1-2 years ahead.
Your ds is performing well, but others in the class are performing better.
He calls himself stupid as well Notnagging.Its a term that 6 year olds use, not in a rude sense.He is on a table where the kids are way behind.I do know this as i help out in the classroom.He is actually getting 100 % in bond papers for his age group so can apply his knowledge.These are much more difficult than the key stage 1 papers.And are used in private schools ,not state schools.The teacher has been telling me he can't do anything and hence we have been testing him at home.Last week he got a 3 in ks1 english and a 2a/borderline 3 in maths papers.The trouble is the more i tell the teacher this,the more she moves him down a group.This is a very average state school with a real mixture of kids. I do try to be supportive of this teacher but now i think she is just plain wrong about my son.
Its virtually impossible to know which children are behind from helping out in the classroom as you only have a very brief snapshot of the work they are doing.
It can be difficult feeling that the teacher hasn't recognised a dc ability, but worth remembering that their assessments are much more involved than assigning a mark to each correct question. Bond papers follow a different format, which may be why he finds the SATS style papers confusing.
As an example, at home, my 11 yr old ds can whizz through Bond tests etc, but at school under their test conditions he becomes distracted, will sometimes distract others and generally not give his best. This however is not the teachers fault.
If you can, its far better to approach the teacher and ask how you can best work together for your child, ask the teacher where they believe the weaknesses to be (it could be your dc loves test papers but doesn't transfer this to class work, investigations, peer interaction to solve a problem together etc, which all go towards making the 'level' a child is at) rather than presenting the teacher with the levels you have assessed at home.
Have you got a parents evening coming up? If you want him moved off the bottom table then presumably your job needs to be to find out what the teacher thinks that he needs to improve on and to help him improve on it.
In your estimation the teacher might be totally wrong. But she controls who sits at which table. So if you want him moved you have to work within her system whether you agree with it or not.
Labro you are making a very valid point there.His results in school in practice ks 1 papers [i believe the first one he has ever done]were less than a 2a[he maintains he missed 2 pages accidentally].His class teacher has said he is coming in at less than the 'white' stage of reading.He had been on white since September so i pushed for him to be moved to lime as he was getting totally fed up of reading simple books.He is well able to understand lime and can retell stories perfectly [but doesn't always do this at school].The problem is Learnandsay i am working with him.The more i say this to her the more furious this teacher gets and seems to downgrade him.She likes to be in control of the parents[anecdotally she does this with parents who are well educated and extremely involved with their kids].I am an extremely supportive parent [have several dc's who have gone to this school with a real mixture of abilities].I have never fully relied on the schools to tell me about my children.I am at a total loss at what to do next.However i am extremely tempted to remove him [but have 2 others at the school who are doing well].Tiggytape,we tested him on the Bond papers because the teacher is perpetually saying he is behind at everything.Its not something we do routinely.
I hear you. My main worry is that you seem to be in a fight with the teacher and she seems to the one of the "it's my way or the highway," types.
The only problem I can see is that in a myway/highway fight with the teacher the parent can't win.
You seem fixated with the tests. At ks1 the tests are merely one indication of how the child is performing. It is mostly teacher assessment. The tests are just a snapshot, ours only do 1 test in May.
Depending on how many sets there are, it might just be that the rest of the class is even brighter. In my DD1's small state primary a child at that level may well be in the lower of two groups - it's just a very bright class. And you need to sort out the way he (and you) describe the abilities of other children.
Maybe he is the 'thickest' of the class???
You have no knowledge of the abilities of others in his class
Kilmuir,how bright are you?.Please make a constructive comment!.Yes learn and say ,i probably can't win.Though i really don't want my child upset and demoralised by school at 6.Diplodocus he is on a table with kids who are way behind because of various reasons,some of whom have learning difficulties.I do know this.Tiggytape,yes until now, i wouldn't have believed that a teacher could act like this.The fact is she is.I have posted this to see if anyone has any advice to offer me?.Tiggytape according to the teacher he is bad at everything.I get feedback when i go into the school, whether i want it or not!.
This is why parents shouldn't be able to help in their own child's class.
You are taking your privilege as a volunteer and using that to try and influence the teacher from your resulting knowledge of the class.
If I were the teacher, I'd be speaking to the HT and requesting that you were asked to move class or stop volunteering.
While I agree that there is an obvious difference between volunteering because you want to help, and volunteering because you want to get the lowdown on what's happening with your child (or sneak a peek inside all the bookbags when the class is out of sight,) I disagree on what to do about it.
Why does a mum need to be removed? There's nothing secret about education. There's no reason why it can't be done in front of the parents.
If the teacher has got a problem with the child's maths she should be able to demonstrate it to the mum in such a way that the mum can understand it. And if the teacher can't explain it and demonstrate in a way in which the mum can understand then either she's not a very good teacher or the problem doesn't really exist.
Lougle i have been volunteering for years.This school relies on parent helpers for reading etc.I do it because i enjoy doing it and feel i'm making a difference.Wile i'm doing it of course i get to know the kids and their abilities.Is that a crime?Most parents will use all of their abilities/talents to help their children get on in the world surely?Whether thats by earning more money for private schooling or becoming a school governor or a member of the pta or volunteering.I agree with you learn and say.Education should not be secret and it is too precious to be left solely to the teachers.
Tiggytape i have no intention of saying how bright he is.I don't know whether going over his teachers head will help or antagonise.I suspect the latter.
"Most parents will use all of their abilities/talents to help their children get on in the world surely?Whether thats by earning more money for private schooling or becoming a school governor or a member of the pta or volunteering."
Really? You see, I am a Governor at my DD1's Special School to help the school be the very best for all the children there. In fact, if there was an issue that could directly benefit my DD to the exclusion of others, I would exclude myself from that discussion and decision making process.
I would hope that the intention of many parents who volunteer is 'no strings attached' support for their DC's school, not an opportunity to find out where their child is in the class.
Lougle,i'm very glad you are such a purist.However as a governor of a school that is your job to be non-partisan.How does being a volunteer who knows my childs class placement preclude me from being a 'no strings attached' supporter.I am truly failing to follow your logic here.
I have had a word with the teacher today.Dc 4 has been moved up to the top group in Maths this morning apparently but has been moved down from lime to white in reading.Because he got 2b in the ks1 test before half term apparently that is gold level.He hasn't been on gold level for about 10 months though,so they decided to move him down to white.The teacher has said he is very well able to read lime but needs to demonstrate better understanding.dc 4 is a bit demoralised about it but looking at the ks1 test he obviously couldn't be bothered that day.
I know.I'm glad that it sounds puzzling to others as well.I'm trying to be positive though as i dont want dc 4 to be completely turned off reading[he was only 55 pages into his horrid Henry book and he was so loving it though.Its now been snatched away!].
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