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Reception reading reluctant to read the book

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BathTangle Fri 23-Nov-12 18:05:06

(If you click on the "Acronyms" tab at the top, you can see what all the DD / DS etc mean.)

My DS was like this when at that stage of reading - for us it was all about finding the right time of day to read - he's now in Y2 and is a v confident reader - my main problem is him sneakily turning on his bedside light and reading another 4 or 5 chapters when he's supposed to be asleep.....!

mrz Fri 23-Nov-12 17:57:08

dd =dear /darling daughter

jhfmg Fri 23-Nov-12 10:52:00

Firstly can someone tell me what dd etc means ? lol
My eldest refused to read all the way through infants, was under SEN and was ever assessed for further issues. Second day of Junior school he was a changed child. Happy and enthusiastic to read, learn, attend school etc. I have no idea what the issue was with the infant school, whether he just was not ready, or if the teaching did not suit him. But v. glad now he's a happy school boy!

Mcmiaow Thu 22-Nov-12 19:17:59

Had a total turn around today. I'd written in her reading diary that dd was a bit reluctant to read the book. Her teacher must have had a chat with her because she was full of excitement after school and told me she was allowed to read any book, it didn't have to be the school book. She then insisted on reading 4 books to me. She must have just been as bored of Sid's nits, Nan's nits, Kip's nits as me!

Cat98 Thu 22-Nov-12 11:27:31

There are some books where the adult reads the bulk of the story, but there is a chunk for the child to read on each page too, eg speech bubbles. Might something like this work?

rrbrigi Thu 22-Nov-12 10:40:28

Which type of book do you get from the school? If there are characters in it, probably you can be the narrator and she can be one of the character (snail, frog, etc...). Or you can use any other books at home that she likes. In this stage if she does not like to read it is not a big problem, you can use picture books to tell the story. It helps her comprehension. I think it is more important that she should see you to read to her as much as possible. And one day she will join in to the reading.

timtam23 Wed 21-Nov-12 22:03:03

My son is in YR and is absolutely shattered every evening. We do encourage him to do a bit of reading, but during the week it is usually too late for him - so maybe 2 evenings out of 5 he will read his school books. Weekends are much easier as he is less tired and we can do the reading at a time to suit him. I wouldn't push your daughter to read every day, obviously the teacher will say it's important but the worst outcome is it'll turn into a battle & completely put her off reading (my son's teacher has been at pains to say that the reading is supposed to be fun & enjoyable & he shouldn't be pushed to do it if tired etc)

The other thing that has helped recently is that he does seem to be getting the hang of reading some of the simpler words without sounding them out first - I think it has sparked his interest a bit more and he is less frustrated by the whole thing.

Mcmiaow Wed 21-Nov-12 21:57:43

I think she probably is too tired. Thanks for all your advice, I think I'll see if she wants to do it in the mornings and if not just leave it.

paneer Wed 21-Nov-12 21:40:49

Could be too tired?
My YR DD is too tired to read after school and refuses. We do it in the morning and she quite enjoys it.

mrz Wed 21-Nov-12 21:27:14

I'm a teacher and would say if it's a battle stop and try again another time, it isn't worth getting upset and upsetting your daughter. In reception I wouldn't spend more than 5 mins unless she decides she wants to read longer. Sometimes it's worth trying reading in the morning if you can find the time.

Itsjustafleshwound Wed 21-Nov-12 21:10:10

Obviously a teacher is going to say that it is important to read daily - but it can take many forms and doesn't always have to be out of a book - it could also be retelling a story, finding things that have the .... sound.

I will also say that the learning to read books that my children brought home were so uninspiring ..

MilkRunningOutAgain Wed 21-Nov-12 21:03:46

My DD refused to do reading, or anything else school related, when she was in yr r. I did try games and lots of things but no luck. i didn't really get to the bottom of it but she really started trying in yr 1 and still is in yr 2. End of yr r she was on ORT stage 2 and she couldn't read them at all, the only word she could read was "the", phonics and blending did not click. I was getting worried. In yr 1 she got it and finished on ORT stage 8 which she could read easily, with little effort. Some kids need to be a little older before they get reading. I hope this is reassuring, I wouldn't push reading as it can put dcs off. If your dd likes listening to stories, then do lots of that so she gets to hear loads of brilliant stories. Eventually at start of yr 1 my dd started to want to join in and help me read. We went from there.

Mcmiaow Wed 21-Nov-12 21:02:31

Thanks, we do tend to do it before bed so I'll try to move it earlier. She's always keen to be playing before and after tea so it's difficult to fit in. That's the thing PoppyWearer, I really don't want to put her off but I don't know whether to back off totally! Maybe bribery would work!

PoppyWearer Wed 21-Nov-12 20:31:57

My Reception DD hates reading the books from school that she "has" to read, only wants to read the ones she chooses. I see it as her way of rebelling against all the rules. We get there with a bit of bribery, and I also have to pick my moment carefully, so she isn't too tired.

It's worth remembering that in many other countries, kids don't start school or learn to read until they are older. So don't get too worked up about it, or you might put her off reading altogether.

learnandsay Wed 21-Nov-12 20:30:05

Can you make it into a game? Maybe write individual words on paper and have a treasure hunt throughout the house following the words?

OohMrDarcy Wed 21-Nov-12 20:29:54

is she tired? DD used to moan about it a bit in reception

What kind of time do you read with her? I find the best time is to get home, have a snack / chill for 30 mins then read before dinner


incywincyspideragain Wed 21-Nov-12 20:28:02

Has she had her eyes tested? ds1 had strops about tracing, he's long sighted and one eye is lazy, didn't get glasses until reception, worth ruling out, high street optician if fine, we use specsavers

Mcmiaow Wed 21-Nov-12 19:49:49

My reception dd is really reluctant to read her school reading book to me. She can sound out the letters and blend ok, but just gets in a HUGE grump about doing it! I don't want it to become a battle but I obviously want to listen to her read as well so I can't decide what to do.

Any advice? I mentioned it to her teacher at the parents evening and she said it was very important I listen to her read every day which I agree with, just don't know how to make it a pleasant experience for all of us!

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