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Would you let your son towear pink pyjamas in the school pyjamas party?

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rrbrigi Fri 16-Nov-12 09:43:08

My son favorite color is pink. He is in Reception. They are having a pyjama party in the school.

He has a pink pyjama for home use only, but he asks me to let him wear the pink peppa pig pyjama in the school. I explained him that the pink is for girls and other children might pick on him because of this. He does not mind, he still would like to wear the pink pyjama. We had a 20 min discussion about it and he still stand up next to his decision that he would like to wear it.

What would you do? Do you think other children will say something or will notice at this age? Shall I have another go and discuss it with him again or just do not let him to do it? But he is telling me either he can wear the pink one or he will wear his uniform, but not any other pyjama.

Thanks.

Thisisaeuphemism Fri 16-Nov-12 09:47:23

He sounds cute and determined! I would let him. I would say "some people think that pink is just for girls but they are wrong. Pink is a lovely colour for anyone and Peppa is cool...etc etc"

Runoutofideas Fri 16-Nov-12 09:57:08

My dd has a little male friend in yr 1 who always turns up to parties in a princess dress. No one cares at all. Let him wear the pyjamas.

GobblersSparklyExplodingKnob Fri 16-Nov-12 09:58:45

You have told him pink is for girls, really? hmm

Let him wear what he wants.

crazygracieuk Fri 16-Nov-12 10:04:18

If you mentioned the possibility of teasing and he says it's fine I'd let him wear the pink pyjamas.

My oldest wouldn't have said something but my younger two would have said something as they were aware of the "pink is for girls" thing through older kids.

feetheart Fri 16-Nov-12 10:09:55

My DS is in Yr2 and both he and his best friend (also a boy) love pink and will wear it at any opportunity. My sister was a bit hmm when he asked for a pink stretchy belt for his 7th birthday last week but bought it for him and today he has gone in wearing that and pink stripy socks along with a spotty t-shirt. If his pink polo shirt had had spots on it he would have worn that too.
We have talked about some people thinking pink is for girls/blue is for boys and maybe saying things but how that is their problem opinion and shouldn't stop him doing what he wants.

He sounds like he knows what he wants, I'd support him with that and let him get on with it.

ClaimedByMe Fri 16-Nov-12 10:12:59

I would have let him wear them but put a pair of boys jammies in his bag incase he got teased he could get changed.

ThePathanKhansWitch Fri 16-Nov-12 10:17:25

I,d let him wear them.My dd was invited to a princess party last month and wore a batman suit. I love that she is individual.

pecans Fri 16-Nov-12 10:25:53

I think I would let him wear them - he's aware he may get teased and has accepted that, which is very strong and individual of him (and to be applauded). I would probably check it out with the teacher to calm my own worries, too.

There is a little boy in dd's class who wears hairbands to school and a princess dress to parties. He sometimes wears a dress out, and is aware that people don't always understand. So far it has been fine - he plays with all the girls and is accepted by them. How this will pan out in later years, I don't know, but at this age there doesn't seem to be a problem.

pecans Fri 16-Nov-12 10:26:55

I love that he has told you he will wear the pjs he likes or uniform, too!!! I think you have to let kids express themselves when they feel strongly.

Scoobyblue Fri 16-Nov-12 10:27:22

I think that he will be teased by other children, but if he doesn't care abt that, then let him wear them. If the other children see that he isn't bothered by what they say, they will just move on anyway.

rrbrigi Fri 16-Nov-12 10:29:02

I did not mean pink is for girls only, but this particular pyjama is for girls, because I bought it from a girl section.

Thanks for letting me know. But know I feel, I was wrong again, and let him down when I tried to change his mind after our discussion. sad Poor my big boy! I will let him decide and as you suggest I will support him in his decision.

Silly me!

radicalsubstitution Fri 16-Nov-12 10:30:40

DS would never in a million years wear pink pyjamas, but that's because pink pyjamas rarely have Star Wars characters on them. If you could get pink ObiWan Kenobi pyjamas, he would probably wear them.

Although he probably wouldn't wear pink himself, he certainly wouldn't even bat an eyelid at another boy wearing pink. Last year (end of reception)a group of friends were dressing up using the shared 'dressing up' box and one boy put on a fairy dress. It was perfectly accepted - he was a power fairy apparently.

radicalsubstitution Fri 16-Nov-12 10:33:26

rrbrigi - you were concerned that your son might be picked on for wearing something usually associated with girls, and you wanted to try to protect him from that. There is nothing wrong with that.

pecans Fri 16-Nov-12 10:34:31

I think it is good that you questioned him - it has helped him express himself in a very strong way. And wearing pink Peppa Pig pjs isn't the norm for boys in the society we live in, so it's good for him to be prepared for comments etc. But as Scooby says, kids usually only tease when they get a reaction. Do update us on how it goes!!

rrbrigi Fri 16-Nov-12 10:37:00

Scooby is his favoruite!

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Fri 16-Nov-12 10:38:36

I would absolutely let him wear pink

My eldest ds is 15 amd his favourite colour is bright pink, he especially loves his hot pink boxers grin

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Fri 16-Nov-12 10:40:14

Sorry rrbrigi I didn't see your other posts. Don't worry at all about your ds, either option was fine and you made a judgement call, nothing wrong with that at all smile

steppemum Fri 16-Nov-12 10:42:18

1. pink is not for girls (my 9 yo likes pink)
2. peppa pig is not for girls
3. no-one knows it came from girls section
4. he is happy, let him do his own thing (great lesson in making choices)

I have told this story before, but my ds in reception started riding a pink camouflaged bike to school. he did it becasue it was bigger and had no stabilisers compared with the only other bike available. Older boys (not his class BTW) asked him why he had pink bike, he replied LOOK IT'S GOT NO STABILISERS. They went 'wow cool' and stopped teasing him.

BrainSurgeon Fri 16-Nov-12 10:43:23

Op I know how you feel, DS is in reception and he keeps asking for pink wellies (ha ha my iPad just tried to change that to willies)
I 'm afraid I did the same as you and said pink wellies are for girls <shame>
But I did say pink is a lovely colour and he can have other things in pink
<awaits flaming>

PerryCombover Fri 16-Nov-12 10:44:37

No
It will make him gay

steppemum Fri 16-Nov-12 10:45:15

BTW, don't feel bad about the discussion you had. He needs to make informed choices. In this case, I too would take time to check that he knew he was going against the grain, and then support his choice

One of my dds has odd taste when it come to non uniform days. I sit down and talk with her about whet the others will be wearing, and she is very determined that she will wear her own thing, so then I support her.

BrainSurgeon Fri 16-Nov-12 10:48:12

If DS would be adamant he really wants pink wellies, I would let him have them. He didn't insist at all, got distracted straight away...

So back to OP, in your situation I would do the same, have a chat hen support his choice.

rrbrigi Fri 16-Nov-12 10:48:15

Why we are sometimes so silly and "broke their wings" to try to "help" our child to fit in the society perfectly? It is just me is not it?

You thought me a wonderful thing within an hour that I never will forget again and that is "OK TO BE DIFFERENT" and let them express themselves.

Thank you so much. thanks I cannot wait to see him again and tell it to him. He was so sad this morning when he went into school.

Cahoots Fri 16-Nov-12 10:54:16

Let him wear the pink PJ's and send a spare non pink pair to school with him in ase he changes his mind.

There is nothing wrong with boys in pink. My 20 year old DS has several pink shirts. He look lovely in them. smile.

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