So - it's the first day back after half term and dd1 has been grumpy (kicked her sister, which is VERY rare - she's always been a v gentle girl) and then clingy at the school gate. She spent much of yesterday dreading the return and wishing school had never been invented etc. She's always been mildly anti-school, just because she prefers to be at home, but this seems to have gone up a level.
I don't think it's bullying/friendship anxiety. Although she's quiet, she's always been popular and has been with the same group since Reception (now in Y4). She does have one 'wendy' friend who constantly compares their abilities to the detriment of dd1, but she's not the only target of this girl and doesn't seem to take it especially seriously.
Her class was recently setted for Maths and she was put in the top set - while she has the ability, she is not at all confident about it and often complains that it's 'too hard'. (She says this about the homework too but, once she's given it two minutes thought/had it explained clearly to her, she completes it without problems.)
What I'm wondering - and I'd really value any thoughts on this - is whether it's anything to do with something that happened last year.
Dd1 loves to write stories, and she's good at it. At her Y3 parents' eve, just over a year ago, her teacher mentioned that she was going to be offered accelerated Literacy classes once a week with some of the older children. She was in the room when this was mentioned and was very excited about it. Not surprisingly, it made her feel special. She wrote a ton of stories and ran out of notebooks about once a week (she writes on the PC as well - notebooks for the bedroom).
I'm not sure why, but the extra lessons never happened. G&T co-ordinator had decided to limit it to Y4+ only, I was told.
This year, dd1 begged me to mention it to her new teachers (job share) at the September parents' evening - so I did. Her teachers said that she wasn't on the register and it was far too early in the term to talk about it (well, indeed, I wasn't sure what the point of such an early parents' eve was myself).
So dd1 has gone from special to not special, basically. And I imagine this is part of the problem. She doesn't write anywhere near as much as she used to either.
Would it be unreasonable to bring it up with the school? I don't want to seem like a pushy loon who can't accept that my pfb isn't a literary genius - I'd have been more than happy for this g&t thing to have never been mentioned and to carry on encouraging her creative writing interests at home - but I do think they have short-changed her and her self-esteem has taken a knock. (Also looking very likely that dd2 is going on the g&t register for maths, which won't help...)
I'm going to have a chat with dd1 tonight before I say anything to the school - she might well have moved on from this disappointment and be fretting about something else - but I'm interested to know what you think.
(Sorry about the essay.)
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wearingpurple · 06/11/2012 09:50
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