Authorised time off during term time

[naptime]

I have just had my DS's request refused!! It is for 2 days over my husband's 40th, a Friday and Monday for a gathering we booked over a year ago and are hosting, a considerable distance from where we live - hence the time off. Now in dilemma - do I just take the time off? Or do I ring in and report him sick on those days? DS is in reception, turned 5 at the start of this term, I don't know if that makes a difference.
Any advice greatly appreciated!

[Elibean]

Personally, I would just take the time off. Our Head has been told quite clearly by local authority, and backed by governors, not to grant time off: so he doesn't. You simply have to make your own judgement, and take responsibility for it

[BoysBoysBoysAndMe]

I would take him off. It will be registered as an unauthorised absence, that's all.

At reception age, 2 days off isn't worth worrying about.

[radicalsubstitution]

Just take the time off.

I think it would be a really bad idea to lie about illness when you've already asked for that time off.

[naptime]

Thanks everyone for advice. Do you think it will be followed up by school if I just take him off? Will we get a telling off? Feels a bit like being back at school myself and breaking the rules!
Feel a bit annoyed about it. The letter said 'only for exceptional circumstances.' For us it is an exceptional family/ friends get together you only turn 40 once! DS has 100 % attendance, and rarely missed any days at nursery. Grrrr.

[lljkk]

Most people would just ring him in sick.

[Hassled]

Pointless ringing in sick - the school will have filed the declined absence request form and so will know you're lying.

If you have 2 day's unauthorised over a year there won't be any repercussions.

[izzywizzyisbizzy]

My ds school has a zero holiday policy - I have booked 2. At this age (reception), I believe family time is very important - and it's a lot more fun in the sun.

It's ridiculous - when I was in school travel was encouraged.

[givemeaclue]

Just travel after school on the Fri come back Sunday

[naptime]

Yeah it is ridiculous. I work in a school, and I know the head is more flexible. Seems that some schools are more flexible than others.
My DH saying we definately still going - givemeaclue - the distance is too far to travel jsut for Fri to Sunday. If we cancel it now we will lose alot of money and annoy alot of family and friends! If my DS turned 5 the day before his first day at school is he legally required to be in school this term anyway?

[teacherwith2kids]

naptime,

Heads have very little discretion in most cases - 'no authorised holiday absence' is an LEA polcy and can't be varied by a head.

Take the 2 days unauthorised. If that is your only absence for the year, there will be no repercussions. My LEA escalates VERY quickly through fines to imprisonment for repeat offenders, but 2 days over the whole school year is not going to cause a problem.

DON'T call in sick - the school will know you are lying, and it will cast a black cloud of unjustified suspicion over every future sickness absence from now to the end of Year 6!

[ChristinaF]

I think schools have tightened up on this. My brother got married last month and my request to take DD3 aged 4 (in Reception) out of school for the day was turned down. We went anyway - it was my brother's wedding and she was only staying for half days at that point anyway! There have been no repercussions.

[naptime]

Thanks everyone I feel less stressed about it now. I was imagining DS might loose his school place if we go or we get a horrific fine. We will take the 2 days as unauthorised and won't be planning any family events in term time again!!

[clam]

"Only turning 40 once" is not reason enough for absence to be granted.

That said, I'd just go anyway.

[RiversideMum]

In our LA, the fine is £50 per child per session (ie £100 a day) when the child has had more than 10 consecutive sessions off. It's not worth lying - or expecting your child to. Just write to the HT and explain what will be happening and say that you understand this is not authorised etc.

[sunnyday123]

Wow so annoying! Go anyway! We are lucky as our head will grant 2 weeks with no questions asked (as long as attendance ok). We are going to Lapland the last week of school in dec and dds in yr and y2 will miss 3 days. I booked in may but only told them last week - they granted it but frankly I was going anyway!

I took them out 2 days last year too (end of July). Some of their friends are off sick all the time whereas mine attend every day so I don't worry about it. Go and enjoy!

[BrigitBigKnickers]

I thought legally that children had to be in school the term after their 5th birthday.

If your DC is only just 5 I can't see how this would be a problem. They can't fine you.

I say this as a teacher but a couple of odd days won't make a difference- especially not at this age.

[narmada]

sorry to hijacked but i also wondered about whether children under statutory school age - eg who are in reception and aged 4 - need to observe the absence rules....

[MrsMiniversCharlady]

If it's for this term then you didn't even need permission because he's not yet legal school age.

[clam]

"We are lucky as our head will grant 2 weeks with no questions asked"

Not for much longer. It's been pretty patchy until now, and our Head was quite liberal in granting time off. But as of this term she's had to get tough, as the sanctions from above are non-negotiable, so a letter has gone out to parents from the Governors setting out that fines are forthcoming.

"Some of their friends are off sick all the time." Not exactly a jolly then. Why does that mean they can't have time off for Lapland? Some might argue they're in more need of a treat, if they've been unfortunate enough to have suffered ill-health whilst yours have been well.

[sunnyday123]

Clam

I just meant that those kids off sick don't generally miss much (mine haven't on the odd occasion they've been sick) so therefore I don't worry about 3 days. I have several friends who a teachers/heads who admit the rules are mostly to do with attendance figures. ( of course being off for a week or more can cause problems with catching up, friend issues etc). Our school is large (500 kids) not sure if this means the holiday figures are less obvious when averaging?

The letter I got back accepting the leave was a photocopy standard letter- not even signed! I hope it stays the way, although most parents at this school don't abuse it, rather than taking a few weeks off, people tend to add days around the holidays so they can miss the peak travel times.

[clam]

I'm torn on this one.

This whole 'holidays in term-time' palava is the government (this one and the last) trying to make a political point by appearing to raise standards. The real problem with term-time absence is from persistent truants from families who cannot control their kids' whereabouts or behaviour, or who don't value school highly enough to ensure they get there everyday.

However, that's far too hard a nut to crack, so in order to reduce absence figures across the board, they're gunning for the generally law-abiding types who follow the rules, send their kids to school as they should, but once in a while like to take advantage of a deal or family occasion that happens to fall in term time. And they can make a fast buck or two by fining them for the privilege while they're at it.

[RiversideMum]

But there is evidence to show that lots of time off affects achievement. Whether that be for holidays or because parents are OTT about "illness" - children who miss lots of school don't do as well as they could. Lots of people on this thread seem to have the attitude "it's only reception" but as a teacher of that age group, I think missing a lot of time is very damaging. Children in reception make progress on a daily basis and learning moves on very quickly, often based on experiences the children have shared. In many way, it's easier for a child to catch up from a couple of days missed when they are further up the school.

By the way, there are several categories to mark why a child is absent from school, so discriminating against children who have hospital appointments is not an issue.

[qo]

My ds's school said they couldn't authorise a week( we were going to new york) I actually told the head when she rang that I'd be taking him anyway. Nothing ever happened, in fact most of the teachers were excited to hear all about it and see his holiday snaps.

If it's a one-off incident they aren't likely to waste resources following it up.

[clam]

qo that was then. Things have changed/are changing. They will use resources to chase it up from now on, because it's become a hot issue and schools have no choice. The fact that your son's teachers looked at his holiday pictures does not mean the holiday was condoned at a higher level.