DS (5) is in reception. He has a friend he knows from nursery (same school) who isn't very nice: last year he used to push DS over (so much so that he fell & hit his head twice & I had to go into the school to sort it out), he plays mind games ('you're not my friend' etc.), constantly lies and makes stuff up, calls people names and does things like flick my DS with rubber bands when they're waiting in line.
DS is pretty quiet and stoic, doesn't complain, is quite reserved and rarely tells a teacher if he's upset about something. I have worked hard to teach him that how this boy behaves is wrong & that he needs to tell him so (or tell a teacher). Sometimes he does, more often not.
I know the boy's mum & she wants my DS to go back to theirs next week for tea but I'm not that confident she'll keep an eye on them. I've been to the park with her, for example, and she let her DS hit other children with sticks. Until I told him not to, at which point she lamely said 'oh XX that's not very nice' & he completely ignored her.
WWYD? Let DS go back to their house next week? I haven't spoken to DS's new teacher yet but may do soon - I've been waiting to see whether the 'friend' had improved any over the summer holidays as I know all kids go through unpleasant phases. I guess I'm worried as they're now in the classes they'll stay in all through primary school and I don't want my DS to think this is normal behaviour or for it to escalate later into bullying - I need DS to stand up for himself too and am not sure of the best way of helping him do that.
I was going to let him go but then today he told me of yet another incident of unpleasantness last week and now I really don't know.
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WWYD: How should I handle DS's 'friend'?
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birdsnotbees · 20/10/2012 21:30
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