SENCO Meeting - Advice please!(7 Posts)
Have a meeting with the SENCO at DS school. We thought for a while he might have dyslexia but a friend suggested dyspraxia might be more likely given some other things she had observed about DS. I googled dyspraxia and was a bit [shocked] at how many of the symptoms DS ticks.
Whilst I don't want my DS 'labelled', I do wnt to make sure I do the best for him and get him the support he needs. He has been quite slow in terms of his development and I put it down to all children developing at different rates. He is very intelligent (IMO!) and able to analyse information, fantastic long term memory and could reason with a barrister, but really stuggles with letter formation & reading (as well as buttons, riding a bike, food, touch, staying still...).
I don't want to come across to SENCO as a precious parent who can't accept little Johnny isnt top of the class because I'm really not, but I do want my concerns taken seriously. Reading the dyspraxia information felt like a lightbulb going on in my head with regards to DS and I feel crap about not noticing this before.
Do I go into the meeting and say 'I think DS has dyspraxia' and present a list of syptoms that he has displayed or do I ask them if they have noticed anything (apart from his literacy, I know his teacher has concerns about the way he becomes frustrated and has 'melt downs' in class when he can't get something right. She also said that he is sometimes a nightmare to understand because he has so much he wants to say but cant seem to get it out).
Never had a meeting with SENCO before and always feel like a nervous schoolgirl when I go into school for parents evening! To be honest, I'm scared...
I had a similar situation a few years ago with DS2 - we suspected asperger's after a friend mentioned he reminded her of a child she worked with in school.
I approached the school and said "we're beginning to suspect X has aspergers and before we go to our GP to ask for a referral we wanted to check if you had noticed any of these behaviours" That way I felt I would be seen to be asking for their help rather than making excuses for him etc. It turned out they had noticed already and were planning to arrange a meeting for me to come in and speak with them when I pre-empted them by arranging a meeting.
If you strongly suspect dyspraxia then I would mention it and ask them if they feel the same way.
Thanks fuzzy. That sounds like a good approach. I don't want to make excuses but I also don't want DS to suffer either. His confidence is already starting to take a hit because he feels stupid at school. Will let you know how I get on! Just a bit nervous as I've never had to do this before and you read a wide range of opinions & experiences with SENCO in schools.
I would go with Fuzzymum's approach.
If the school have noticed any issues, you could also ask them to write a report/statement that you could use as evidence if you decide to seek a diagnosis.
The way you describe your ds sounds exactly like mine who has just been diagnosed with dyspraxia and spd.
I would mention dyspraxia to them, they should be able to refer him to a OT if they agree. I wish I had known about dyspraxia earlier, like you it was only when someone mention it and looking at symptoms that I knew my ds had it.
SENCO said that she wasn't an expert in dyspraxia but that she had observed some of the things that I mentioned as symptoms. She recommended going to the GP as the referral will be much quicker. Unfortunately, the GP at our surgery who specialises in children can't see him for nearly 3 weeks. I do feel better knowing someone else could see where I was coming from. I think Fuzzymum's approach helped - thank you!
Nsure - how old is your DS? What's involved in the assessment? We're only at the beginning of our journey...
hi, I didnt want to wait too long for an assessment as my son has just started secondary, he's 11, so I paid for a private assessment. It took over 3 hours and he was tested on his fine and gross motor skills, balance , spacial awareness , his writing speed and writing grip were all looked at. We were then given a complete written report around a week later . Alot of things came up during the assessment that I wasnt even aware of ,it really opened my eyes to all of his difficulties .
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