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4+ assessment over today now 2 weeks wait for result

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Blossom8 Thu 04-Oct-12 19:59:44

2 years in the waiting and cannot believe it's done and dusted today. Now the anxious wait to see if DD has got in. Am fairly confident she did well.

Apparently she was asked to name shapes such as rectangle, right triangle, circle and ...... paralleogram (yes for a 3 year old! and I don't think I can even spell it!). Listened to 2 stories, did some drawings and she managed to write her name on her piece of work. I'm proud of her.

MarshmallowFarm Wed 31-Oct-12 19:52:12

For what it's worth I failed to get into a top selective school at 4+ and 7+ but breezed in at 11+ (with no tutoring) and went on to do well academically.

Some children just don't show the school what they want to see in the way in which they are expected to show it (by the school in question) at 4 or even 7, for all sorts of reasons.

It doesn't mean very much at all at this age, other than that this school probably isn't the best fit for DD at the moment. Good luck with the Catholic prep!

Blossom8 Wed 31-Oct-12 19:41:13

no need to apologise Farewelltoarms. Each opinion to their own. I have not dismissed state options but the ones round my way is not that great. Of course, if I had an outstanding state school in my catchment area, I would have no hesitation sending my DD there. This would have been my first option as it would save me thousands.

Farewelltoarms Wed 31-Oct-12 19:31:33

This is going to sound really patronising (and it probably actually is patronising so apologies) but every parent I've ever met thinks their first born is both sensitive and bright. And consequently if they can afford private, many of them opt for it because they feel the smaller classes etc will benefit them. But really honestly most children aren't more sensitive or bright than the norm and equally state schools can hardly have no sensitive or bright children in them. I don't want to turn this into a state v private thing, but please don't dismiss your state school on these grounds. I know a child who was selectively mute in a posh pre-prep, who blossomed in the 30 kids in a class atmosphere of a state reception. She found the hustle and bustle liberating after the intensity of a small school.

Blossom8 Wed 31-Oct-12 10:30:14

I do agree that it is crazy to assess 3 year olds and even more crazy that some parents actually tutor their kids for 4+ assessments. We chose private as our DD is bright but shy and we felt that smaller classes may suit her better and help her become more confident. I am still waiting to hear back from the school regarding some feedback on her performance but the fact that it's been nearly 3 weeks and no call has not left me with a good impression.

uoYekorByMredluomS Wed 31-Oct-12 08:40:03

I would agree that these sort of schools and looking for three things a lot of the time: am Autumn birthday, a confident child and the right sort of parents. Don't worry OP. I think selection at this age is ridiculous.

givemeaclue Wed 31-Oct-12 08:37:39

We are in bristol. Lots of private schools and I have never heard of anyone not getting a place at their selected school at this age.

RiversideMum Wed 31-Oct-12 07:51:06

I'm sure there are schools out there that celebrate the fact that the children are 3 and 4 and let them be 3 and 4 and do 3 and 4 year old things.

MegBusset Tue 30-Oct-12 18:17:41

Meaning no criticism of you OP, I know how tough it is to find school places in London, main reason why we moved away!

MegBusset Tue 30-Oct-12 18:15:13

4+ assessments? Being asked to read/count/write at the age of three?! <boggles>

My DS1 couldn't read or write a word (apart from his name) before starting reception. Now in Y1 he is classed as "exceptionally bright" and reading/writing/counting far above expectations of his age. I am gobsmacked that schools think they can judge academic potential at such a young age, or that parents would play along.

Farewelltoarms Tue 30-Oct-12 18:02:09

Sorry both are madness

Farewelltoarms Tue 30-Oct-12 18:01:15

But you're still trying to find reasons to explain her not getting in. There probably is none other than numbers and someone having to be disappointed. This is why I didn't do this with my children at that age, they're far too young to be even associated with the words 'failed' or 'didn't succeed'. If your child is rejected (argh negative word again) then you can't help but look for reasons why this might be which is a horrible thing to do. Equally if your child had flown in you'd be congratulating yourself on what a stellar child you'd produced. Both is madness.
Fortunately the fact that my oldest couldn't speak at 3 meant I avoided the whole thing and ended up going to local state. Best decision we ever made (even if in a way he made it for us, thank you my darling boy).

MissBetseyTrotwood Tue 30-Oct-12 17:34:01

A gregarious child is not always a confident one; nor is a shy child who chooses to step out of the limelight necessarily unconfident.

Enjoy your weekend. You'll look back on this in a few years and wonder what you were worrying for! grin

Blossom8 Tue 30-Oct-12 16:52:03

Aww thanks. She's now able to read the Oxford Tree Level One books so hopefully she will do well at 7+ assuming she does not get into the Catholic prep school. Part of me thinks, she did not get in due to her shyness. She hates being the centre of attention. I took her to a dancing and gymnastics class with her friend to boost her confidence but she hated it, she much prefers the library and park.

One friend mentioned that private schools prefers to take on children who are confident and personable so that has worried me abit.

I suppose the good thing is instead of paying the hundred pounds as deposit, we are now off for a short weekend to Barcelona.

MissBetseyTrotwood Tue 30-Oct-12 15:46:10

I'm sorry you have been disappointed.

My friend works at a 'non selective' prep in another part of London and she's been party to the 'let's advise them to continue their education elsewhere' meetings that begin to go on around now for the children who are not considered to be cutting it by 7. She assures me it's not pleasant.

Your DD sounds bright, confident and most of all, loved and happy. She'll be just fine. smile

Farewelltoarms Tue 30-Oct-12 15:27:44

Sorry that should read 'doesn't mean she's not bright!' Too many negatives in that construction.

Farewelltoarms Tue 30-Oct-12 15:26:34

But it must be a lottery surely? If it were possible to pick out high achievers at 3, then why do they weed out a quarter of them at 7 as they do at a school round here? Presumably they eliminate any obv badly behaved/potential special needs and then just take a rather random selection of boys/girls, old/young, blonde/brunette. Oh and here in n London there's a def bias towards celebrity offspring.
Your daughter not getting in does mean she's not bright. Equally had she got in that wouldn't have been a guarantee of the opposite...

Tabya876 Tue 30-Oct-12 14:22:31

Hello Blossom8. I'm sorry to hear that your DD did not get in. Our DD is sitting her 4+ assessments next week. She is confident, chatty and bright although she can only read a handful of words and only count to 30. We hope that she does get into our school of choice as we believe she would thrive there.

Family, friends and teaching staff at her current school say that they would be shocked if she were not to get in but who knows what the specific criteria they have are! I hope the charming sweet 3 year old that everyone loves will turn up on the day and not her arch rival smile

I really hope that your daughter will thrive wherever she ends up studying. It does appear surprising that she did not get in.

Chestnutx3 Mon 15-Oct-12 14:15:42

Phone up and ask for some feedback it may prove enlightening. Problem in London is that it is very competitive you need to go to at least 3 assessments even if you have a very bright girl. There are normally lots of very good non-selective preps that even though they appear to have long waiting lists there still a chance to get in at a late stage.

Blossom8 Mon 15-Oct-12 14:03:25

We are waiting to see if we can get into a Roman Catholic prep school but that is very slim as we are not catholics. Actually I do prefer the catholic school over the selective prep as it is far cheaper and has a caring but disciplined environment. State schools nearby are okay but I feel she would be more suited to a prep school.

difficultpickle Mon 15-Oct-12 12:45:26

What about the non-selective options? I'm rather hmm at assessments at 3 but we aren't in London so are spared all that.

Blossom8 Mon 15-Oct-12 09:14:59

thank you Jigsawmadness and ReallyTired. I'm not disappointed with my DD as I know she did well but just surprised that she did not get in. I might ask for some feedback. Without sounding like sour grapes I just hoped they did not base their selection on siblings or other connections with the school. Oh well, I guess we will have to try again at 7 or 11+. At least I'll be saving myself £10K a year.

Good luck with your children with their school choices. I did not think it would get me as nervous as it has. I guess we all just want the best for our little angels.

ReallyTired Sun 14-Oct-12 21:44:04

I'm sorry to hear that your three year old did not get into the selective school Blossom8. It really makes you wonder what the school was looking for. I agree with seeker, that its wrong to put such demands on a three year old.

Anyway I hope your little one is happy whatever school she ends up going to. Its stressful not knowing which school your little one will end up. We are just hoping that dd gets into the local state primary run the corner. I feel relieved that the only thing that affects whether dd gets into her local state primary is distance and the number of siblings in her year.

The children who were high fliers when ds was three aren't the same children who are high fliers at ten. Assessment at three years old is completely ridicoulous.

Jigsawmadness Sun 14-Oct-12 21:32:11

So sorry to hear that. The 4+ assessments for my DD are next month. I'm not overly confident TBH and my DD cannot read at all, let alone know 80 words!

Blossom8 Sun 14-Oct-12 21:13:35

my DD did not get in which I am somewhat disappointed and surprised. Only because I think she is bright. She is able to write her name from memory, knows here shapes, read around 80 words, count with a few errors to 100 but she did not passed. sad The kids who did pass well done to them, they must have been really impressive.

kilmuir Mon 08-Oct-12 15:36:38

well said seeker

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