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Wobblypig Tue 25-Sep-12 20:09:04

Kind of dreading parents' evening in a few weeks because teacher has already made some reference to ds's inability to be still or quiet.
It drives me mad at home as well. He is always doing more than one thing a time, he is always tapping, jiggling, swinging legs . He reads at gold level and above but is so busy telling you about the pictures or heading off at tangents about the texts it is annoying to listen to him read. It is always insightful stuff but makes everything laborious.

Has anyone else had a child like this? How did they cope in schools and did the teachers get really annoyed with them?

Wobblypig Tue 25-Sep-12 20:09:29

Forgot to add he is 5 in yr 1

FamiliesShareGerms Tue 25-Sep-12 20:11:03

He sounds exactly like my DS (who is the year above). No pearls of wisdom to offer, I'm afraid, I'm hoping someone else might!

Wobblypig Tue 25-Sep-12 20:15:44

Hi families, do the teachers get annoyed or comment. Not sure what I will say to her if she makes a point of it. Ds says he talks less when his work is hard.

FamiliesShareGerms Tue 25-Sep-12 20:37:21

DS's (lack of) concentration is a feature in every report and feedback we have on him... I wouldn't say that the teachers are annoyed as such. I figure that because he's bright but needs help focusing there are harder kids to teach. And his tangents are usually interesting and humorous, even if completely irrelevant! It'd be interesting to hear from a teacher which sort of children they find the hardest to have in the class, but I suspect it isn't the bright but fidgety ones.

DS does knuckle down eventually, but it takes him a while to get going and to stick with things. Not sure whether it's linked to hard work or things he finds interesting. One thing that we have noticed, though, is that he tends to get set work that doesn't really stretch him, or be put in lower sets, because he doesn't always get through the work in the allotted time.

We've always acknowledged this as an issue with the teachers. They are in the "he'll grow out of it" camp at the moment, so we are trying to be relaxed about it smile

Wobblypig Tue 25-Sep-12 20:46:10

They do sound similar. I feel reluctant to be too hard on him because what he says is typically accurate and factual and not just randomness chat about monsters etc

radicalsubstitution Tue 25-Sep-12 20:52:51

OMG this sounds exactly like DS (although he's only on green band reading books). He's also just started Year 1.

He never stops fidgeting and NEVER stops talking at home. I think that listening is a real challenge for him - although if he is interested in a subject he can listen for hours.

Interestingly, he loves listening to stories about people being naughty!

We had a terrible year in reception, but I am (very quietly) confident that the much stricter teacher in year 1 will suit him better.

We'll wait and see.....

FamiliesShareGerms Tue 25-Sep-12 21:03:17

We're hoping that a stricter teacher in Yr2 will help, too, radical!

Just had a thought: DS has recently started piano lessons, not just for the benefit of learning an instrument, but to give him one time in the week where there is nowhere to hide and for 30 mins he has 1:1 attention. We're hoping this will help his focus...bit soon to tell how successful that will be....

radicalsubstitution Tue 25-Sep-12 21:08:38

Families, we do 1:1 swimming lessons, and DS has come on leaps and bounds. He can swim almost 25m with a fiarly passable front crawl, which is not bad for just 6!

I would like to try a musical instrument, but DS is convinced he wants to play drums. I'm not convinced.....

Wobblypig Tue 25-Sep-12 21:19:27

That is interesting about the 1:1. We also were thinking about an instrument. Drums might not be a bad idea because it involves multitasking and kind of tames the jiggling accordi to my husband who did drumming as a child. We live in a terrace so I can't see it being popular in my house.

Today he was in school from 8.20 til 4 15 because he had Spanish club and still came bouncing out like a yo yo and wanted to go the library . Ran, jumped , skipped and talked all the way even whilst reading library book. It is mad

radicalsubstitution Tue 25-Sep-12 21:44:34

It is exhausting, not mad, Wobblypig! DD (2.6) is currently cutting her last molar. As usual, she and DS had a bath together. She was whining and crying and being generally foul (also has a stinking cold after returning to nursery). DS, meanwhile, did not stop talking the whole time. I feel very guilty, as a parent, for confessing that I have no recollection of what he was talking about. It never ends - from the moment he wakes up until the moment he goes to sleep. I am so glad he eats well - it is the only time he is quiet!

Maybe drums aren't such a bad idea - perhaps he can be the next Dave Grohl!

Wobblypig Tue 25-Sep-12 21:55:34

Exactly- from the minute he wakes sometimes before cos he also sleep talks. I also have a Dd 3.4 who has ironically speech delay and I always wonder whether she has felt that she can never get a word in. Ds dominates every conversation even with strangers. Just as I finished asking for a table at a restaurant he was already asking the waitress the way to the toilets and asking the if they had pepperoni pizza.

BikeRunSki Tue 25-Sep-12 22:03:58

These boys sound exactly like my DS who is just 4. His birthday is in the first week of Sept so he is still at nursery and bored to tears. At home he has a 1 yo sister to vie for attention with. He is doing my head in.

Wobblypig Tue 25-Sep-12 22:30:29

Maybe we need a support group!

FamiliesShareGerms Tue 25-Sep-12 22:35:23

Sounds good, Wobbly!

radicalsubstitution Wed 26-Sep-12 08:06:59

Oh yes! Plus, he's just learnt to whistle. Now the house is full of monotonous whistling as well!

Jooles999 Wed 26-Sep-12 09:28:34

My 5 year old DS is exactly the same and has been since small resulting in numerous accident reports from nursery and school as well as injuries at home as he "bounces off bed into door" which was last night. It seems to get worse when he is tired. A couple of things have helped which are football training with a strict coach and karate class where they have to concentrate. Amazingly he managed to get through his latest Karate belt exam with minimal wriggling and talking. Hopefully the trend will carry on......hmm

Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 26-Sep-12 12:33:02

Sounds just like mine, he does not stop
He's just started reception, and I am holding myself back from talking to the teacher before parents evening
I am waiting for "excuse me, Mrs King, can we just have a word"

Even when reading bedtime stories, he is interrupting and asking questions!

What can you do? They are the professionals and they have to teach allsorts
It's his personality, I can't change it

PastSellByDate Wed 26-Sep-12 14:44:10

Hi Wobbly:

Your little boy sounds perfectly normal and lively and I thought that this link might help you think about how he is in a different way:

Ken Robinson (formerly Warwick University School of Education) writes on creativity in education - at about 15 minutes in he discusses a little girl who was always fidgeting and what happened from there:

www.ted.com/talks/ken_robinson_says_schools_kill_creativity.html

He also tells a story of a famous US Olympian (gymnast Bart Connor) - again a boy who was always moving, never sitting still:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=U9v6QehKeqU

Your little boy sounds bright, lively and creative. Work with the school to foster it!

Good luck.

Wobblypig Wed 26-Sep-12 17:20:04

Thank you so much. I certainly don't want to quash a lively mind. Ut a few minutes peace would be lovely. Thanks for the links

FamiliesShareGerms Wed 26-Sep-12 21:07:22

By a strange coincidence, DS's piano teacher commented today how much better his concentration was today, and he has told us proudly how he is finishing his school work every day this term, rather than always having stuff to finish on a Friday. Fingers crossed that this is the start of improved concentration, not a blip....

BleepyBloop Fri 28-Sep-12 00:19:09

What an amazing thread. I've gotten the "Mrs. X, Can I have a word?" about my DS being just like the child described above or wanting to do his own thing. I thought it was just my kid -thank God I'm not the only one!

Wobblypig Fri 28-Sep-12 22:56:42

Bleepybloop - what they say to you ; what did they feel you could do?

Chandon Sun 30-Sep-12 16:02:06

5 is so young! It is normal boy behaviour.

My pet hate really, I feel that boys are viewed as dysfunctional girls!

Sitting still for most of the day for most children (and adults even!) is not natural, normal or good. Kids need a few hours (yes, hours, not minutes) of running around each day.

Anyway, improved concentration will develop with age.

TheBuskersDog Sun 30-Sep-12 16:14:58

Excellent post, Chandon. I really hate the way schools and education have been feminised.

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