would you organise a 'reception mums' pint?

[ilovedaddypig]

DS has just started school. The other mums are friendly enough but it occurred to me we only know each other as 'so and so's mum' - yet we're going to be linked to each other through our kids for the next seven years. I was wondering whether to suggest a meet-up at the village pub as an ice breaker. If a mum suggested that to you, would you welcome it or would you think she was a weird stalker who hadn't got any mates....

[BackforGood]

I guess you'll get both, but by suggesting it, you'll find out who the fellow billynomates drinkers are, and be able to pal up with them

don't take it personally though if people don't want to - it's not that they don't like you, it's just that they've already got enough 'stuff' going on in their lives at the moment.

[PeasandCucumbers]

I have two DC now year 3 & year 2. I have always gone to mums social evenings, we have ones where the whole class are invited usually in run up to xmas & then again towards the end of the year. I think it's really nice to get to know each other. One of the mums in my DS's class has also recently started a book club for mums in that year as a chance to get together every couple of months, it is a small school so quite a small yr group

[VioletStar]

Do it. People will be happy someone suggested it. It's a good way to meet in a non-school environment and be you, not so and so's mum/dad. I met some of my closest friends that way. Good luck

[ilovedaddypig]

Thanks. I might mention it to a couple of the more chatty mums and see if I can persuade them to organise something together. I like the pub (!), but would rather know at least one or two people were going to join me....

[ExitPursuedByABear]

We used to do Christmas and end of year piss meet ups. Always good for a laugh.

The school organises a get together at a play centre for the reception children and parents as an ice breaker, and you will also find you get to know other parents at the endless round of birthday parties.

[MrsJohnDeere]

Great idea. I'd go!

[surroundedbyblondes]

I would absolutely love this if someone did this at DDs' preschool. The parents are quite well connected to each other in DD1's group. DD2 has just started but many of the kids in her group have older siblings/cousins in the school already and I socialised with several mums while we were on mat leave. Now we are all back at work we are bemoaning the lack of social outings!

[goingtoofast]

Very good idea, we are doing it next week.

[PiedWagtail]

Do it! A friend and I did this for our Reception mums at the end of the summer term. We're now going to organise a Christams do!

[RobinSparkles]

It's a good idea. Our school does a "Social Evening" at the beginning of each school year, at one of the local pubs. It's for everyone but mainly a chance for the Reception parents to meet each other and people involved with the school.

[dinkystinky]

yes - do it!

[whattodoo]

Great idea, I'd go.

[Pancakeflipper]

Do it. Do one as half term approaches.

Someone was brave enough to organise one and stuck a poster up in the class and sent flyers home with the kids. I went, so did 20 others and every school break we have a trip to the pub. It's not bitchy, it's not a quiche, it's a few drinks and a giggle.

[lynniep]

theres a mum in our year (not reception any more!) who gathered everyones email addresess at the beginning of R. We go out every few months at the local - theres usually at least 10 mums and occasionally a dad that turns up. Its good fun. Myself and another mum instigated the last one - just said we would be at A at time B and would love everyone to turn up. Lots did. I doubt anyone is offended!

[Servalan]

Someone organised a couple of these when DD was in Reception year - went along to both and managed to get to know quite a few of the other mums through them. Definitely worth doing I'd say

[RaisinBoys]

Go for it!

[Goldenbear]

We had one organised by the class Rep in Reception year. It was ok but there is probably a 60:50 split with Dads doing drop off and collection so some were a bit put out that they were not invited especially if they were SAHP. The other problem with it was we had a tab and a lot of bottles of wine were consumed, the bill was split but myself and another friend were driving as we did not live locally and had quite a lot to shell out for a couple of cokes each. A couple of people must not have paid as the mum who organised it didn't have enough to pay the bill. So I wouldn't have a tab as my friend and I didn't want to look difficult so paid a fair share which wasn't fair atall.

[MerylStrop]

Do it

But you could invite the Dads and carers to

[Servalan]

I'd invite both Mums & Dads then they could decide them who was going. We just went to a pub and bought our own drinks - no issues with tabs and the rest of it at all. The invites were issued through the kids' book bags

[ilovedaddypig]

Goodness, I wasn't thinking of anything as organised as a tab. Just thought it would be nice to chat in comfort over a drink without having to dash off to work/ get the kids home etc. Also, we are fairly new to the village and it would be a nice way to meet some more people.
Thanks for all the feedback - I think I'll do it!

[Goldenbear]

Yes the tab was OTT and I never went to another one after that as we're not exactly rolling in it and I don't want to spend 20 odd quid on a diet coke!

[Hullygully]

great idea

[MaggotMummy]

Do it, i would go if asked

[HolyAutumnGoldBatman]

Good idea. We had a reception mums/carers meet up (for coffee, not a pint) last week. All the year groups try to organise parents drinks once a term I think.