I can't take this anymore.
Every morning my 7 year old DD2 cries, from the moment she gets up to the moment I leave her at school. She's cried all through pre-school, reception, year 1, year 2 and now into year 3. She cries whoever drops her off (me, DH, grandma, everyone so it's not solely for my benefit)
I've spoken to her teachers millions of times over the years who all say she's fine once I've gone. She's not particularly happy to be there, but not unhappy either. She's a bit of a home body and would rather just stay home. I don't think she's particularly bothered about being with me, she'd just rather not bother with it all - she's the same with days out, holidays, etc - she'd just rather be at home.
She's been back at school just over a week and a half now. 1st 2 days she had to be peeled off me, then her teacher and I instigated a sticker chart (if she went in with no tears she got a sticker, 5 stickers meant she got a special certificate in class assembly on Friday). She was OKish last week - tearful at home and on the way to school, but went off with a TA OK once we got there.
This morning she started as soon as she got out of bed and ended up with her being peeled off me by a TA.
We've tried all sorts over the years - being met at the gates by a TA, being met at the classroom door by a TA. My neighbour has tried taking her in with her DD, we've tried going with the flow and me still sitting there at morning break, we've been tough with her, taken it gently, done reward charts, praised her, etc, etc, but nothing has ever made any difference.
She's doing fine at school (has been diagnosed with some SEN so is getting extra support and doing well), has lots of friends, takes part in lots of afterschool clubs, has her friends here a lot and goes to her friends houses a lot. She isn't being bullied or anything and has always loved her teachers and TAs so we just can't find any reason for it, and she can't give one either, other than "I just want to be at home with you"
It's just so wearing every morning, it's not nice for us, it's not nice for her, it's not nice for her teachers and TAs and it's upsetting the rest of the class.
I'm all out of ideas, her teachers are all out of ideas - we're rehashing old strategies at school in the hope that we hit on something that works but she's doggedly hanging in there every morning.
Has anyone else ever been through this? Did you find anything that ever worked?
Thanks!!!
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freddiefrog · 17/09/2012 09:15
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