She has always had a tendancy to do this, even at Nursery. She is in Year 1 and has had a very close friend since Reception. They are very similar in terms of everything, size, academic ability, personality, the things they like to play. The friend's Mum and I are good friends and like the fact that they are close but we both worry that they are isolating themselves to the detriment of making other friends. It became very apparent to me at the school christmas disco where I helped out. For the entire time DD was stuck to her friends side. Other kids tried to interact with her but she wasn't interested. I actually found it a little bit embarrassing.
Now I get the impression that things aren't going too well with the friend. They have always had a tendancy to argue as they are both hyper-sensitive and prone to melodramatics. But they are now falling out almost daily and DD is becoming quite moody and sometimes says that friend makes her feel bad about herself. I am sure that this isn't a deliberate thing on the friends part. But I get the feeling that she might be withdrawing a bit.
How can I get DD to play with other girls more? She has had a few playdates with other girls, although we are limited in that respect as I work 3 days a week and she has activities on the 2 days that I don't work. The times that we have had other people over to play she has got on with them really well and she has enthused that she really likes them and wants to play with them more. But she just ends up going back to this one friend. I think it is a security/safety net thing.
I think it is lovely that she has such a good friend in this other girl but I just worry about what she will do if something happens, if the other girl finds another friend for example. Is it normal for them to be so fixated on just one person?
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DD fixating on one friend
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Rollergirl1 · 09/02/2012 21:22
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