My DD made a best friend last year whilst she was in reception and they moved this year into the same Year 1 class. They play together at break and lunch and they also have playdates outside of school. Both sets of parents like the friendship, they have a lot of fun together.
At parents evening last week, her teacher suggested that it wasn't good for them to play together all the time and that she would gently encourage both girls to form other friendships. She said that my DD, whilst not bossy, was the more dominant character in the friendship and often led the games they played. I agreed that this strategy would be good, particularly as we live overseas and she is at an international school with a big turnover of children each year. Her friend will be leaving at the end of next year. My DD likes and talks to the other girls in her class but prefers to play with her friend at break and says they often invite other children to play with them, especially if they see anyone on their own.
Yesterday she came home from school and said that she was really sad because her teacher had told them they weren't allowed to play with each other in the playground anymore and said they both had to make new friends. I asked her who she played with and she told me the names of two of her classmates that she liked but she said she didn't enjoy their games, she thought they were dangerous because it involved walking in the playground with their eyes closed where they might bump into things. My DD can be overly sensible sometimes . Whilst I understand and agree that my DD should be encouraged to form other friendships, I think this was a harsh way for the teacher to have gone about it. It's the last day of school today anyway so it seems an odd time to have chosen to enforce this.
Just looking for views on this really. Should I ask her teacher not to keep them apart, or should I trust her judgement on this one? Looking back, I'm fairly sure I played almost exclusively with my best friend early on in primary school. Is it important to have a wide group of friends at 5? I don't want my DD to be unnecessarily sad at school by being separated from her BF. But is her social development more important, eg to make friends who aren't going to follow her lead all the time? And I don't want her to be bereft when her BF leaves the country. I know the teacher has their best interests at heart, I really like her. But I thought she'd be more subtle in her encouragement for them to play other children. Any advice? Thanks!
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Friendships in Year 1
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rowyourboat · 16/12/2011 09:15
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