reception bullying

[pranma]

My dgs[5] has settled really well in school,has lots of friends etc but every day he says,'I hope xxxx[a boy in yr 1] wont hurt me today'.He has been pushed,kicked[massive bruise on leg],punched in stomach and hit with a skipping rope.His mum-my dd has spoken to the teacher but still it goes on.I collect him twice a week and I want to do something.I want to tell xxxx that I have a hotline to Santa's elves and will be on the phone to them if there is another incident!I know my dd would be livid as she wants the school to handle it but my lovely dgs is being hurt-it is wrong.Yes I know it is none of my business but what do you think?

[RedBlanket]

Let the school handle it.

[muffinflop]

It must be hard for you but you really would be asking for trouble, from your DD if nobody else, if you did what you've suggested. Saying that, if your DD has had words and still your DGS is being hurt then she needs to have another word with the teacher

[teacherwith2kids]

Your DD needs to escalate this within school if she has spoken to the teacher and it has not stopped.

Ask for a copy of the anti-bullying policy, speak to the teacher to make certain that it has been implemented fully and then speak to the head if still unhappy.

[beingarebel]

You need to get your dd to raise this again with the school, possibly in writing now if speaking to them hasn't got anywhere. You can't get more involved though.

[madwomanintheattic]

i would suggest it is probably not bullying per se, but a child with some behavioural issues with inadequate support from school. yr r is very young for one child to decide to bully one other child.

you need to stay well clear, and dd needs to make persistent complaints in writing that her son is being injured at school by x (and diarise injuries), and the school needs to explain to her how they are going to safeguard her child. that said, if you are picking him up and notice a huge bruise on his arm, you could just ask him and the class teacher what happened, if there is no note. it's possible that the class teacdher isn't aware of the extent of the issue.

if they do not give dd any reassurances, she needs to escalate it to the ht. and then the c. of g. and then the lea.

if she and any other parent that's child is getting hurt continues to apply pressure, the school will put the support in place that the other child needs. whether that is behavioural strategies or 1-1 supervision.

it's unlikely to happen without serious incidents though.

[pranma]

I know you are right.I picked up dgs today and he said,,unprompted,'YYY[his best friend] and I have decided that when xxxx gets us we are going to say he is a silly baby and then we will laugh and run away.We wont tell the teacher cos thats mean!'I was quite impressed but dd is aware and the school seems to be handling the situation so I have decided to say/do nothing.I cant really stick my foot out when a 6 yr old runs by can I?I wouldnt really do that :)

[RiversideMum]

I'd agree with the poster above that this is unlikely to be bullying in the true sense of the word but more likely to be a child with behavioural problems lashing out at people who happen to be close by. If your child is injured in school then you should get some sort of accident form or notification. It is also common for an incident log to be kept if physical harm involving one particular child is happening a lot. You need to find out if your child is reporting the incidents to an adult immediately they happen.