My DC is friendly with a little boy (let?s call him X) in his reception class. At the open evening his teacher tells me that they play beautifully together & my DS is always coming home talking about X. X attends after school club everyday and to date I don?t know who his parents are.
Just before half term I put a note in his bag asking his parents to get in touch if they are interested in getting the two boys together for a play date over the holidays. They didn?t get in touch and haven?t even acknowledged my note. I think that is extremely rude and I am annoyed about it.
As a treat, I have bought theatre tickets for my DS and some of his friends. I asked him who he wanted to invite from school and straight away he mentioned X. Also, DS keeps asking me to invite this X over for tea (we haven?t started play dates yet).
My DS is a late summer born & is an only child. I?d love him to have friends over for tea & increase his social skills as he?s really shy.
But, what should I do? I?d loathe writing another note and having it ignored again. Or should I write another note regardless? After all, my feeling aside, it seems my DS really enjoys playing with X.
Looking forward to all your thoughts!
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DC parents ignored my note – WWYD?
LondonSuperTrooper · 04/11/2011 10:34
Maybe the parents' didn't get the note 
Do you do the pick up? Maybe you could hang around and introduce yourself.
I would suggest that notes and reception children dont mix all that well. I had to go and apologize, with a red face that I had put a party invitation in the recycling box with a whole stash of pictures and little notes dd had written as I hadnt realised what it was 
when dd was in reception.
Also if this boy goes to afterschool club, I would assume his parents work/are busy so may not be too keen on playdates or trips out.
Hi,
I'd definitely assume they didn't get the note. Some parents (not me obviously! ) often forget to look inside their child's school bag from one week to the next. Scrunched up bits of paper can easily get forgotten. They may just be busy and disorganised. They may also be unsure of their son going to play at a house of someone they've never met, and are not likely to meet since they work. or may think they can't reciprocate, since they work, so don't want an unfair social scene to be set up.
But I'd give them a second chance or more. A good friendship for your shy son is worth pursuing. My son befriended a boy in his class and asked for him to come home frequently. But it was impossible to pin his mum down to a date. She literally crossed the road when she saw me coming. This boy was never allowed to parties or school trips. It seemed like she actively isolated him. But I persisted and persisted. Eventually she was cornered when we bumped into them as a family and I asked the dad, who said yes. Now they are round at each other's houses all the time, go for parties together and the mum and I get on very well. She even stops by for a glass of wine occasionally. I'm one of the few people she speaks to. We still have no idea why she was so against him socialising for over a year but it's in the past now.
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