DS has started in reception and been placed in a class with two friends from the school nursery as I had requested. DS has always been well-liked by his teachers and friends. When he started at the school nursery, I was pretty confident he would cope fine but initiated his first playdate with a boy, D, whose mum was new to the school. I thought it would be nice as both were going to be in the same keyworker group. This boy for the whole year at nursery was best friends with my son. Unfortunately, he never liked any other children attempting to make friends with DS. Another boy, E, and my DS became close too and the trio played together pretty much all of the time, partly because my son was very fond of boy E and would play with him regardless of what boy D said. The thing was that if DS, tried to invite any other children over, the other 2 boys would sometimes tell the other children that they weren't to play with or come to our house. Boy D also snatched things DS played with. DS would then just pick something else and carried on. I thought boy D's possessiveness of DS would pass and he would just grow out of any snatching etc as he got older. Unfortunately, this has not been the case.
In the first week of reception, my son played with the new kids at drop off and mentioned new friends he's made. Boy D seemed, at drop off, not to be settled. He, along with boy E, grabs DS's hand when it's time to sit on the carpet for the register. Between them, I observe that they tell others not to sit next to DS. Also the other thing I am worried about is that Boy D is misbehaving in class and has been told off by the teacher. DS tells me that he has been breaking his models amongst other things. When I ask DS who he plays with and eats lunch with he says D and E. I have told DS that he should also play with the other children but he sometimes says that the other two make that difficult. How do I deal with this? I have asked the teacher how DS is doing at school. She says he's doing well. I want DS to be able to socialise with other children without being told by the 2 boys he cannot. They stick to him like glue and he always looks sandwiched between them when it's time to sit down in the morning. I don't want to upset the parents of the other boys by bringing it up with them as they'll be in the class together for then next few years. Boy D's mum seems to get offended easily and has moaned about other people, including Boy E, to me. I have never commented on anything she's said but merely listened politely. Sorry this is long. I'm rambling on. I am just so worried. I don't want to make things worse for DS.
The other thing is that I have always just hoped that they will grow out of this possessive behaviour as they get older so have not done anything. Things are the same in reception as they were in nursery though. Thanks for the advice.
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Advice please, especially from teachers, about tackling possessive friends.
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chickenrice · 02/11/2011 11:18
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