I posted this thread about two hours ago, but it disappeared. So apologies if it's duplicated.
DD (4.6) started reception this september and has settled in well. She is a very confident, social child who is very forward and will greet anybody with a hello and will strike a conversation even with a stranger (appropriate conversation about what is going on). I guess she is sometimes overfriendly, for want of a better word 'on your face'. We have a ds who has asd, so we were so happy for her to be social that we never thought about teaching her not to strike up a conversation with strangers, or take clue about when she is not wanted (if she was talking to somebody who clearly did not want, we said to her that she should just say bye and move on as we were busy). I have been noticing lately that at the school gate, she runs towards other children in her class to say hello and talk about what they are doing. Couple of times I noticed that a group of three girls were teasing her for her and telling one another to move away from her. In fact, one time there was a boy who shouted at her for running to him to say hello. I was not sure how to react as I have expected their parents to tell them to be polite as I would have done. This is bothering me.
Dh says we should just leave her to deal with it, understand that not everybody is her friend and understand when she is not wanted. DD has not had much opportunities to socialise before starting school, we moved to a different country when she was little away from all the family and friends and with all DS's issues, I found it to be easier for her to stay home whilst I did all the work with ds. I am not worried that she is not making friends, she clearly has made few friends and has been asked to go onto play dates and birthday parties. I just want to teach her how to deal with these type of situations or understand when she is not wanted (as she was following the girls around despite they were laughing and moving away from her before I pulled her away). She has no SN by the way, she is just a bit over excited at meeting her classmates and comes across as very over friendly. She is also gifted in that she is at least 2/3 years ahead of her peers academically in every subjects and is not shy about it. She will be the first one to volunteer for any activities and will put her hands up for answering the teacher. I am guessing this is not helping her either in that all her peers seem to be so quiet and still finding their ways.
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someoneoutthere · 18/10/2011 09:43
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