Just had a quick talk with DS's teacher today. It appears again that DS is struggling and currently bottom of his class in terms of literacy and not doing that much better in numeracy (but not struggling quite so much). We live in Northern Ireland so he has just started P3, which I think is the equivalent of yr 2 in England (he's an April born child, now aged 6).
I am worried for DS and I am feeling horribly guilty that I am somehow failing to help him enough to stop him struggling. He has struggled since he started school. I think of him as quite a bright child (not biased at all ) as he is very interested in books, soaks up factual info very readily, (which he then recounts to anyone who'll hear him out), he's kind and pretty good at swimming, running, PE. But he is not like most of the other boys. He is sensitive (and is too aware already of what his peers can do and what he "can't"), a bit emotionally fragile, but very empathic of people. He's a great big brother to his sisters. However his confidence now in his literacy and numeracy is pretty shattered in spite of attempts by DH & me and his teachers to help. He just finds it so hard. He's has grasped phonetic sounds, knows his alphabet well, can read words after phonetically breaking them down, but doesn't seem to retain recognition of common words that most of the class readily read (she, he, then, that, etc etc.). I have tried to practise as much as possible at home, and he gets a LOT of homework, but with 2 other DCs (one of whom has serious medical condition), working 20hrs a week I fear I haven't spent enough time doing this with him.
Please help oh wise ones. As DS is my firstborn I am new to all this. I have a parent meeting with his teacher in 2 weeks' to discuss his "issues" and how we can work together to help. I just wish I could help it all "click" for him. I know I shouldn't compare but DD1 (4) just finds it all so easy, I wish it could be that way for DS.
DH thinks the school are pushing him too hard, that it will all come in time, and that as he is quite enthusiastic that's a good start but pushing him too hard could backfire. I can see his point.
FWIW DS was born 10 weeks premature. No serious medical issues thankfully as a result but given his tough first few months I do wonder if that's had an effect... He does always struggle staying on task (unless it's reading geology/palaeontology/nature books), has done since a preschooler.
Wow sorry that was far too long. Must work on being succinct!! :)
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JumpingJellyfish · 11/10/2011 21:38
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