I've namechanged but am a regular on here btw.
Ds is in year 1 and is nearly 6. He is a lovely boy and very bright. We have always been out and about loads etc and he is really sociable and all my friends and their children adore him. However for the last year at school he has been very different. At least 2 or 3 days a week last year i was called in and told about some awful fight he had started at lunchtime or similar stories.
Evidently he is fine in class but lunchtimes have always been bad. I am sure he is not being bullied and normally the people he has hit (or bitten on occasion) are his close friends.
I really cannot understand this and neither can any or my pre school friends, family or his old nursery teachers as it is so out of character so i wondered if anyone had any insight into what is going wrong at lunchtime.
I feel sick dread taking him to school and collecting him and know some of the parents are avoiding us etc. and i am now considering a "new start" and transfering him but have a few questions about this:-
1 - technically the school he is at is "better" than any nearby schools that have space (but one school is a lot smaller so i now think may suit him) - would you be put off by reputation and ofsted or go with gut feling?
2 - This year's form teacher only mentioned his bad behaviour as i asked her outright last week. I have spent the last month assuming all was well and he had made a fresh start this year but when i casually asked if he was behaving himself she proceeded to list literally about 14 cases where he had been "very physical" at lunchtime. Do you think i should have been told weeks ago?
- Any experience of a new school solving this or would i just be jumping as i personally feel very uncomfortable having a child who is "labelled" as naughty and am now avoiding chatting to other mums etc?
Thanks for reading my long ramble and look forward to a few opinions