Hi all,
I'm just wondering if you can give me some tips.
I have 3 children. My first two are fairly close together and they have always had lots of fun together playing, not really argued much but do get pretty engrossed in whatever they are doing together (I feel quite uninteresting to them). Third child seems to take up more of my time and they pretty much go off and be kids together and play. When I cook they are off playing etc. They don't spend very much time alone! I don't have a problem with this but I am trying to paint a bit of the picture.
My first child is year 3. She is pretty spirited but from what I have gathered she keeps herself in check in the classroom and is doing ok. I encourage her to do homework and work hard at school but she certainly isn't the type to just get on with it. There are a few things that are bothering me :
- She doesn't always follow simple instructions and drags heels with me - good with school teachers but perhaps other adults she is too hyper or distracted to even hear them i.e dinner ladies, brownie helpers, sports coaches (I find this disrespectful). I feel she is starting a slippery slope after working hard in year 2 and being more respectful.
- She still chooses to go loopy and has high energy levels at break time. It's like she doesn't know how to have a calm conversation some at the moment. It's all high energy as soon as she's out of the class. It seems to have got worse since she returned to school. How do I get her to hold onto the good things we expect when she is away from the home. Slow her down enough to think.
- She is starting to have more of an attitude and less consideration for others and almost quite rude.
- I also worry because I'm not liking the way she is generally at the moment. Holidays were good. She was lovely to be around. As soon as school starts it upsets me to see her change.
Please could someone either share, be honest and direct with thoughts or offer advice.
Cheers
ps. I want her to be happy and not have me or other adults project our irritation by her more in your face / energy ways, make "nice" friends, do well at school, respect others and rules and I think that by doing these things she will feel good about herself.