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feck. I asked to talk with teacher now I realise I shouldnt. Due to see her after school tomorrow, what should I say?

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festi · 22/09/2011 21:39

DD Y1 has a group of 4 or 5 friends, now in Y 1/2 class, these are the only friends who came from reception they all played together in Reception and have stuck together in the first few weeks.

DD is a bit controling and boistrus and another other girl is a bit controling, much less boistrus but tells teacher alot, where as dd is likely to just get on with it if someone says or does something she doesnt like. Seems these two have been a bit physical and "moany" (as dd puts it) with each other.

DD has gotten in to trouble for pushing other girl a little too hard when playing chase the other day she said by accident, and laughing at her, dd said she was but not being unkind, but who knows, any way dd has gotten told off, lost the end of her play time for tagging to hard. That is fine, but she was very tearfull after school that day and says that the other girl has two days running hit her, kicked her and scratched her with a stick, small scratch to her elbow. Now with hard done by dd its difficult to ascertain if this was all puposfully done or accidently done.

The problem is that the child is now off school due to a small but none the lesser surgical presedure. I had not realised this when I asked if I could have a word with the teacher. Essentialy the girls are friends, but dd was at times exasperated by her tell taleing and it seemed to wear off in R I assumed either teacher having a greater understanding of the dynamics or them having more confideance to stay away and play with others when they had enough of each other. But I feel a little guilty now if I where to talk to the teacher now. What should I say to her without seeming insensitive or should I just leave it and see how it goes when she comes back?

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festi · 22/09/2011 21:44

ment to add dd didnt tell teacher about the hitting kicking and scratching, so have told her the teacher wont know unless she tells her.

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amistillsexy · 22/09/2011 21:56

Have you thought of using this as a learning opportunity for your child? She needs to know that sometimes, people are going through things in their personal lives that worry them. Her friend had a worry and DD didn't know about it. Now she should feel sorry for what she did. Maybe she could be encouraged to make a card for her friend, send her a book from her shelf to cheer her up after the op, and say sorry for upsetting her when she had worries on her mind.

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festi · 22/09/2011 22:01

that is a good point however not too sure I would want my dd to dwell on it too much they are only 5. She should feel sorry for what she did any way regardless tbh.

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amistillsexy · 22/09/2011 22:03

If you feel that way, then forget it, cancel the meeting with the teacher and let it lie.

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festi · 22/09/2011 22:24

I did txt the other mum to say hope dd is recovering well and dd asked dd if she wanted to say anything and she wanted to say hope she better soon. I did talk to dd about the situation and obviously showed empathy for her when I discovered she was having an op.

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2BoysTooLoud · 23/09/2011 07:08

I see no harm in having a chat to the teacher now an appointment has been made. It does not have to be 'heavy' chat just how can we help these girls get along/ keep an eye on the dynamics of their friendship.
I am not sure the girl being in hospital is relevant really to your appointment.
Just keep chat constructive.
Good luck.

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coccyx · 23/09/2011 07:14

Why is fact she has had a small operation relevant ?

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ChippingIn · 23/09/2011 07:22

I agree with the others who say this little girls op isn't relevant to your conversation with the teacher. The little girl will be back to school soon and this situation needs a bit of low key attention.

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Lonnie · 23/09/2011 07:35

I am with coccyx it is not relevant she is in for a operation go speak with the teacher like you would have done say you are aware of the operation however how can this be dealt with so they get on better in the future..

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festi · 23/09/2011 11:19

thanks for responses they are reasuring I would not seem insensitive If I spoke to the teacher still, I have been in 2 minds. It was't going to be a heavy chat anyway, just more for dds sake to know she can tell teacher and speak up for her self and also help the dynamics. I would say it is definatly 6 of 1 etc, but as they are friends I would like them to be supported and feel they can both seek help when needed but also resolve amongst them selfs and not just resport and respond to the title tatle that obviously goes on between friends.