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"can we go to someone's house?" driving me mad

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Sleepglorioussleep Wed 21-Sep-11 20:56:48

This is the first thing dd says to me every single day. Not hello, no hug, just this. It makes me feel unwanted, as if home's rubbish and I can't bear it. Lost the plot about it today. She will have two playdates this week so it's not as if we never do any. Am I the only one or am I a horrible, nasty mother?

Hullygully Wed 21-Sep-11 20:59:21

How old is she?

And Don't Take it Personally

It's not about you, she is trying to do some mad friendship thing

Sleepglorioussleep Wed 21-Sep-11 21:04:57

Nearly six. Unfortunately today I did take it personally! And ranted about it. Great parenting. I hated being at home and think I fear that she does too.

newtermnewname Wed 21-Sep-11 21:18:08

Apparently my 3 year-old is going for a two day sleepover tomorrow with a random child in her nursery. First me or her parent's knew about it. Really, don't take it personally, it's a young child's equivalent to Facebook.

Bohica Wed 21-Sep-11 21:22:34

It gets worse as they get older.

*can I go to Ruby's house?"
"Can Ruby come over?"
"Can I go to youth group with Ruby? It's only £5.50, oh and £5.00 for a drink and a biscuit".
"Can I go out and then invite 12 friends over?"
"Can I have £30 for a taxi home?"

Hullygully Wed 21-Sep-11 21:26:34

sleep - see it's an anxiety friendship bonding thing. It'll calm down.

Sleepglorioussleep Wed 21-Sep-11 21:30:53

Thanks for words of wisdom! Am I helping or hindering by providing play dates regularly?

coccyx Wed 21-Sep-11 21:34:44

I allow, under duress, one a week , no more. But still get the 'can so and so come round, her mum said yes'

Hullygully Wed 21-Sep-11 21:37:28

No no, lots of playdates, it will help her feel established and she'll calm down.

When she says it every day, if it's not a play date day, you could say, I know, I love seeing my friends too, and you're lucky, cos we have got two playdates this week! Come on, let's go and...whatever

Sleepglorioussleep Wed 21-Sep-11 21:53:10

Good-will carry on then. I fear the and...whatever is "go home, do spellings and reading and get very little attention because I'm feeding a baby and trying to get tea ready and keep your brother from climbing the Walls!" must try harder!

Hullygully Wed 21-Sep-11 21:55:52

yes, you might want to make it sound more attractive...what about, watch telly and eat biscuits?

Sleepglorioussleep Wed 21-Sep-11 22:00:26

Thank you, I now have permission!

Sleepglorioussleep Wed 21-Sep-11 22:01:40

Tomorrow we'll have tea in the playtent and watch a DVD. She'll be begging not to have playdates soon!

Hullygully Wed 21-Sep-11 22:02:18

Sometimes, telly and biscuits are your bestest friends.

Don't let anyone tell you different.

Acinonyx Wed 21-Sep-11 22:11:59

I get this all the time. Dd is with CM 2 days (which are like playdates), and we have one play date - sometimes 2. I don't blame her for wanting friends to play with - I like it too! I don't want to play like a 6 yr-old. I do feel the need to have the odd quiet afternoon and get her reading done.

Sleepglorioussleep Wed 21-Sep-11 22:44:33

Please tell me that the biscuits can be shop bought! Custard cream anyone?

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