Ds getting into trouble. Please give me some advice.

[moshlings]

My ds (just started in year 2), has always been really well behaved at school. no troubles at all. However, just towards the end of year 1, and for now again in year 2 he has been getting into trouble for talking to a couple of dcs in his writing group. Teacher then splits them up. He also says it is boring.
I have told him off, banned him from the computer (big deal for him), etc. but it has carried on. He says these dc talk to him and he doesn't seem to have the ability to not talk to them. How can we nip this in the bud.
By the way this has all come from my ds, teacher has not mentioned it to me. I really told him off last night but don't know if this is right approach. He is doing really well at school and this is not in his character - he finds being told off mortifying.

[GooseyLoosey]

The problem is in school, in a lesson so I don't think you can sort it out. You should talk to the teacher about it and ask if it really is a problem and whether you can do anything to help them sort it out. It sounds to me as though being told off a few times by the teacher might be enough and that nothing at all is required at home.

[moshlings]

Writing is the thing he is always reluctant to do. Do you think it would be worth practicing 10 mins a day at home to try and make it easier for him?

[nickschick]

I think around the age of 7 several things happen.....children become more aware of whats right and wrong and actions and consequences so your ds knows its wrong to chat during the lesson and has done the right thing by telling you the full story even before the teacher has mentioned it to you,so for that he needs an element of praise- he realises this is wrong and is effectively needing advice on how to not do this-you could approach the teacher and tell her what ds has told you she could then remind all the class theres listening times and speaking times and its important to do as they are asked,you could tell ds to tell the boys 'not now im working but ill talk to you at playtime'....but then the peer acceptance has kicked in children want to be like want to one of the 'team' and so your ds may find that either way he gets into the wrong team by speaking or that he is excluded for not .

At year 2 its very rare to find a boy that does like writing it seems girls have a more methodical approach they plan it write it bit by bit yet boys the ideas there and they want it splurged out and done.

[moshlings]

I think you have hit the nail on the head nickschick. I think he does want the approval of the other boys in his group. Unfortunately these boys are frequently being told off for being disruptive and i really don't want it rubbing off on my ds. I have told him to tell the boys he will talk to them at playtime, but he hasn't said this to them. All his 'best' friends are in other groups.
Any tips on helping my ds with his writing? He can write brilliantly when it is something he is interested in and was given a 2a at the end of year 1, but it is definately a thing that he struggles with if it doesn't interest him.

[GooseyLoosey]

Ds is not overly keen on writing either, however, so long as it is not a problem for him, I don't inflict it on him at home as he needs down time.

[nickschick]

The only way ive ever seen any way to influence writing (and ive tried many) is buy buying a book I get mine from WH smiths,half the page is lined and half is plain and I encouraged my boys to keep a diary each day of things what theyd done,anything that interested them or even a design for a pokemon card -then id be really interested in what theyd done and sometimes even show it to the teacher at school - if theyre not supposed to be writing its almost as if they enjoy it iyswim and by making it his diary or scrapbook a few lines of writing then a bit of illustrating it doesnt appear a huge task and its only 10 mins or whatever a day.

Once ds took his into school to show his teacher unfortunately weeks before hed written 'I dont like Mr xxxxxx he shouts all the time and it gives me headache and drawn a rather unfortunate picture of said teacher in a football top of a team he didnt support ......the teacher had obviously glanced through and wrote 'listen then I wont need to shout with a smiler face and then drawn a shocked face next to the picture.

[moshlings]

You are probably right gooseyloosey, but it just reminds me of when ds was learning to read. He was reluctant when he found it tricky, but i got him to read 10 mins a day and soon he could do it easily and now he loves reading. Just wondered if it might work the same with writing??? (Can you tell he is my PFB?!)

[nickschick]

Reading is different its an instant thing they read the word imagine the scene and can look at whats next - writing involves thinking it up,planning comprehension,spelling,writing and theres no zap iyswim?.....you might encourage his imagination if he makes the story and you write it though?