DS1 has a large ham roll and a flapjack or piece of cheese. DS2 has a large marmite roll and a yoghurt of some description, maybe a small pot of hulahoops or similar. DD has a filled wrap, cheese, salami, yoghurt.
I don't think that's much, but they don't want big lunches because it cuts into playground time. They do have big breakfasts and a snack when they get in.
DS is 7, DD is 5. In their pack lunches they usually have a sandwich or quorn nuggets and rice cakes, an apple, grapes carrots and cherry tomatoes, a cheesestring, jelly pot, a small cake or choc biscuit and a drink of dialuted squash.
Unless the soup you are giving her is very substantial, then imo she is not having enough. No carbohydrate apart from a small cake (and sometimes crisps) So she is having peas, strawberries, soup, small cake. sometimes crisps? Where is the protein? (apologies if it is a hearty ham or lentil soup!). I would ditch the crisps and/or cake. Add a protein filled sandwich, or a bread roll plus some cheese or similar. Is the drink very nutritious (such as a yogurt/milk based smoothie?) If it is just water or juice then not enough imo.
Sorry forgot to add what my dd has (she is 7 and sometimes complains it is not enough, I think it is!) No snack - she can have free school fruit if she wants. Sandwich such as lean ham and cucumber or 2 small slices of leftover pizza. salad (chopped cucumber and pepper) yogurt Fruit - chopped up fresh peach today, apple yesterday. sometimes dried fruit such as apricots/raisin. Drink - water, diluted juice (pure juice not squash), milkshake or smoothie. If drink has been water then I may add small bag of cookies or crisps or similar but not everyday. 1-2 times per week maximum ( but of course according to her everyone has 2 bags of crisps a day, plus chocolate. )
Mine have a drink, a sandwich containing protein, a piece of fruit or grapes or cherry tomatoes, a frube or a piece of cheese, and sometimes (about twice a week) a packet of mini cheddars or hula hoops or something like that.
Doesn't sound like much at all to me. DD(7) and DS(4) have: sandwich (made with one slice of bread), yoghurt tube, apple (DD has hers for her morning snack), raisins, humzinger, fruit winder, couple of biscuits (ginger nuts/jaffa cakes/rich tea type thing), drink.
DD seems to prefer a selection of little bits rather than one more substantial sandwich. She eats it all. DS eats about half but gets to pick and choose a bit, although pre-school make them eat the sandwiches first. He often demolishes whatever is left on the way home. Neither of them are skinny, but they aren't remotely overweight either.
dd 7 has a sandwich (brown bread so filling, but small in size) with either humus, marmite, ham or cheese. Raw veggies. Fruit smoothie or fruit. A biscuit. She often comes back with bits uneaten, but not always so I keep putting them in. She gets fruit at snack time, along with the rest of her class.
I used to give her much more, but have learnt not to
DS who is 7 has 2 sandwiches with ham or other meat, slice of raisin bread, fruit ( apple, banana or orange), yoghurt, a carrot or sugar snaps and a small treat ( popcorn, small flapjack or a biscuit) and has water with it.
DD who is 5 has 2 sandwiches with ham or cheese, fruit ( apple, orange or some sort of berries), yoghurt, carrot or cucumber and a small treat ( see above)
They get fruit from school and usually they eat most but often the leave the crusts with rahter a lot of bread still uneaten.
Mine are always hungry, especially DD who is v skinny but then they are v active kids