From the age of 3 to 9 DS2 went to school 'A'. He mixed with a rowdy set of lads and they were always in trouble for fighting, trouble causing and basically being pains. DS was placed on school action plus but the school were terrible when it came to letting me know what was happening. They begrudged it when I tried to speak to them about DS progress, just didn't seem interested. On the way home from school one night the group of lads were caught chucking stones at cars. DS wasn't involved this time as he wasn't with them by chance but other nights, he would have been and on this particular night the lads were caught by a police officer (after a stone hit the police car!!) and one of the lads actually punched the officer. Thank god DS wasn't with them this night. Anyway I told DS after this that he wasn't to mix with these kids anymore. True to his word, he refused to walk home with them the night after and in return they kicked the shit out of him in the street.
So chapter 2 - I moved him to school 'B'. Now, I went to school B as a child and HATED it, I was bullied and made to feel like shit BUT it is known to be the best school in the city, was rated as outstanding by ofsted and has an excellent name. I told myself my experience was 20+ years ago and DS would be fine.
First few days he loved it. Now he HATES it. He says he has no friends at all in his class, he gets called a retard and a tramp, the other kids laugh at him and generally take the piss out of him.
I don't know if its a social 'class' thing or not school 'a' was on the edge of a council state so DS never had a problem of people thinking he was 'poor' or stupid because everyone was very similar in that respect. School 'B' is in a very posh area, the kids are generally well off (one little girl in his class proudly takes her blackberry curve to school and a lad in year 6 has an iphone). I just don't know what to do next. Tonight he came home in tears, the teacher had read his homework out loud in front of the entire class and said it was awful, not written in English and was a mess and rubbish basically. He ended up in a big argument on his table where everyone turned against him and said he was "horrible" and that they intended to tell everyone in the school or horrible and disgusting he was. At hometime an older boy kicked him numerous times before a girl pushed him against the wall and refused to let him go, he shouted at her very loud and pushed her to which the older kid decided DS had "attacked a girl" and kicked him very hard in return.
He absolutely hates the school and is begging me to let him go back to his old school. It's so difficult though because school 'B' is the feeder school for the secondary school he will be going to so next september (2012) he's going to have to see 99% of these kids again anyway.
Only other option is that I try and get him into the primary in the neighbouring village with a view of also letting him go to the village secondary school (which is a different school to his brother.
But how many times is this going to happen??? what if I send him to another school and it all starts again?? how many times can we simply say "this isn't working, we're moving". He's in year 6 after september.
I really regret moving him to school 'B' I feel so guilty but I don't know what to do to make it better??
He's written me a list of the names he gets called inc, queer, gayboy, tramp, spaz, div, idiot, freak etc
He tells me everyone in the school hates him and the teachers always side with the other kids because they back each other up.
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DarkenedSky · 04/05/2011 17:06
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