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Teasing - what do you tell your children to say/do when they are called names?

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BlueberryPancake Thu 13-Jan-11 21:59:09

DS is a bit sensitive and gets upset when called names. He doesn't react, you can see his little eyes feeling insecure and his body language kind of collapses - his head goes down, his shoulders go down, etc. I want to tell to be more assertive is he is teased at school and to stand up for himself but I'm not sure how to encourage stronger behaviour. He is a sweetheart and a softy which is something that I obviously love about him, but I don't want him to be a target. He is in reception and some of the boys are really agressive with their language and will say things to him like You are poopoo, you're a baby, you're in nursery hahaha - you know the kind of things that is just teasing not bullying. How can I encourage him to be more assertive? Thanks!

Mssoul Thu 13-Jan-11 22:02:38

Walk away. Every time. I have friends who disagree with this though. At reception age, tell a teacher. Invite kids who are being mean to play and see if he can establish friendships. Easier to be pals with the difficult ones than enemies as he gets older...

bnm Thu 13-Jan-11 22:04:32

agree totally with Mssoul.

maggiethecat Thu 13-Jan-11 22:08:24

I don't have to tell them anything, they'd probably of their own volition call the other child poo poo head!

SE13Mummy Thu 13-Jan-11 22:11:47

Yes to walking away but someone needs to explain to the other children that name-calling/talking in a mean way makes people sad. Try to practise the situation with him (you play him, he plays the teasing children)...

DS: you are a poo head...poo poo!
BP: please don't talk to me like that <walks away to friendly people>
DS: hey, poo poo head. Come and play pirates.
BP: I don't like it when you talk like that. If you do it again I am going to tell Mrs Teacher. <turns back to friendly people and gets on with own games>

maggiethecat Thu 13-Jan-11 22:24:40

Agree SE13, - mine think that it's so funny that even I have been subjected to abuse!

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