My 2 eldest are both at an excellent state primary. My eldest who is in Yr3 has thrived there since the moment he set foot through the doors. He makes friends easily, he's doing extremely well and is in all the top groups, he is incredibly happy and I couldn't ask for more. It's also very close to home and has a fantastic community feel.
My 2nd is in Reception and started in nursery. She's a totally different child to her brother. She's extremely shy, finds it much harder to make friends than her brother did at the same age, is incredibly creative but is also quite bright. I have to say that I didn't realise that she was bright until the last couple of months when she has literally picked up everything they've taught her and absorbed it to a really surprising level.
I've never had an issue with there being 30 in the class, it suits DS well but DH and I are increasingly concerned that much as we love the school it's not the place for her. She's not unhappy there but she's certainly not loving school and whilst she has a couple of friends she hasn't gelled with any children at all in the 18 months since she started nursery. The teachers are also increasingly telling me how quiet she is, how she won't speak out and how they don't know what she knows because she doesn't show it. For example, I asked them if she could go up a level on her reading books and they had never heard her read so had no idea that she even knew the alphabet.
DH and I are increasingly starting to wonder if we should look around for another school for her and move her into a school with much smaller classes where she might feel more nurtured and comfortable and able to be more herself. I do appreciate that it's still very early days and that she'll change a lot in the next few years and I think that we've agreed to perhaps look around at a few schools with a view to moving her at the end of year 1, so in 18 months, if things haven't changed.
I suspect that this sounds like an over reaction to starting school and that it's overwhelming for many children to start school but it's a niggling feeling that isn't going away and both of us feel the same way.
Has anyone felt like this and moved their child? As I say, I love the current school and have no intention of moving the eldest and will still plan to send #3 there as he seems much more like my eldest but it just doesn't seem like the right place for the middle one.It would also mean having DD in a private school and the other 2 state which I don't have a problem with in theory but do feel a bit guilty about in practice. Due to the location of the other schools having them in more than one place wouldn't be a problem.
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applecakesarenice · 09/01/2011 14:21
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