Complaint re teacher Unprofessional Language

[thypnochick]

Hello folks
My son has recently started in YEAR 3.His teacher calls the class Plinkey Plonkers, Nutters, Lazy Toe Rags, and the boys typical blokes.. Also beautiful children do beautiful work and sloppy sitters do sloppy work!
Son is left handed and not the neatest writer at the moment and was veru upset last term as he didn''t think she likes him ie because doesnt do beautiful work and was refering to himself as a sloppy child.
I had a wrod with his teacher but the language has not stopped and the list of unprofessional language has got worse.
I have asked to speak to deputy head about this. What are your thought please?

[moondog]

Leave the teacher to do what they do in their class.

[activate]

I think you are MAJORL overreacting

they are sweet endearing terms

but if she is a negative teacher that's different - if she doesn't provide positive praise then that's different

[mrz]

[pooka]

Agree with moondog. Teacher sounds fun. Obviously is all in the tone and the ability of a 7 year old to 'get' it. My ye 3 dd would love this (and would prob revel in being a sloppy sitter or a nutter). In fact her teacher sounds similar.

[JoBettany]

I think the teacher sounds like great fun too. My DS would love it!

[ConstanceFelicity]

Teacher sounds lovely. Would you prefer an automated robot with no distinguishing features?

[colditz]

I don't think she sounds great fun at all, I think she sounds like a tossy tosser!

[scurryfunge]

Sexist and offensive to anyone with mental health problems - I would challenge it.

[qualitystreetrosescelebrations]

Whatever she's calling your child, if your child is hurt and upset by it then I would speak to her, and say 'look i'm all for a joke, buy my sensitive soul is taking it to heart, please may you consider what you are saying'.

I say this after my dd had a teacher who used such terms, I was shocked to begin with, because the teacher was playing on words with the surname, and unfortunately we have an unfortunate surname, that lends itself to very unpleasant terms. But my dd just found it absolutely hilarious, so I didn't say anything as she was not upset, if she had been I'd of been first at the door.

[eviscerateyourmemory]

I think that her language is offensive, and would speak to the head about it.

[sugargirl1]

I think it's offensive but even if I didn't the fact that your DC is getting upset by it should be reason enough for her to stop it. Is it so bad to think children should be nurtured through their studies rather than embarssed?

[tomhardyismydh]

she sounds like a twat, but probably not meaning to be offensive. but if raised she should take heed. i would complain to her again. she is probably trying to be all twee and such but coming across as a nut job.

[Nettlerash]

I thought that the post was going to include some swear words atleast! I use to get called a lot worse by teachers!

[ShanahansRevenge]

I don't think it sounds fun or endearing at all! "Typical bloke" What is THAT crap?? I would be very pissed off if someone said that to my 7 year old...

The other responders on here who reckon it's all fun and nice are obviously very thick skinned nd have DCs the same...but not all kids can cope with that kind of environment!

I would go in and tell her to stop te sexist language and the negative reinforcemnt now please.

Tell her DS is hurt by it.

[Ilythia]

She sounds like a twatty twat imo.

If it is upsetting your son then she shouldn't do it. simples.

[HuwEdwards]

DD's teacher last year called all the children her uglies and had specific nicknames for most.

The kids LOVED her - she was the most popular teacher!

[MollieO]

I think it is all tongue in cheek which some children will get and enjoy and others won't.

I doubt the teacher actually said that only beautiful children can do good work. Probably more likely children who sit beautifully do good work. Can't argue with that.

Ds is a fidget and sloppy. If his teacher said he was a sloppy sitter I hope he would try and do something about it.

'Unprofessional language' it is a classroom not a FTSE 100 boardroom!

[JoBettany]

I agree whole heartedly MollieO.

[scurryfunge]

So the ones who don't enjoy it, Mollie, have to suck it up do they?

At what point does sexist behaviour, et al become unacceptable?

[pozzled]

I wouldn't object to lazy toe rags, or sloppy sitters, as long as they were used in a jokey way. I would however object to plonkers, nutters and most especially to any form of sexist language. I would be absolutely fuming if a male teacher called a child 'Typical woman', so the same with 'Typical bloke'.

[Goblinchild]

I agree that the 'typical blokes' is the most worrying comment.
I'm surprised that having a word with the teacher didn't have any affect, did you talk properly or just a word in passing?
She needs to know that some parents are cross and some children are not happy. If you think you have given her fair warning and a chance to change, perhaps you do need to write a letter.
I have some affectionate names for certain types of behaviour, but am careful not to go OTT.

[piscesmoon]

It all depends entirely on the tone and expression. We can't possibly tell, written down,what it is like. I would expect the DCs are very happy and know it is a joke. Certain classes have 'in jokes' which don't make sense to others. It helps them to bond.

[JoBettany]

What a lot of nonsense.

[taintedsnow]

It makes me feel a bit uncomfortable tbh. I would have a word with it. Bottom line, she is upsetting your DS, therefore there is an issue here.

[taintedsnow]

Oops, I meant have a word about it, not with it!