ds2 is 6 and in Y2
ds1 is just 8 and in Y3
they are 23 months apart in age but only 1 year apart in school, as ds1 is a September birthday and ds2 is an August
ds1 has Aspergers and is very gifted academically, passed Y6 SATS when in Y1, is "known" to all the teachers and most of the pupils for being clever
ds2 is a bright, deep, thoughtful little boy who feels very overshadowed by his brother
He can read and write well and is good at Maths, he is in the top groups in his class etc, but his confidence is so low it is holding him back and affecting how he feels about himself
when he reads with me he will often say "I can't read", and he visibly tenses up if he sees a word he can't read instantly, I have to say "calm down, don't panic, we will break it down" and then he always manages to decode it fairly easily
but even with menus, signs, instructions for things, his default is "I can't read"
his teacher has recently put the top 2 from his reading group on harder books, and they got to read out loud at the harvest festival, and ds2 is number 3 so again is feeling inadequate and his attitude has deteriorated again - he can read and write at least as well as the other two, but they are the kind of children who have their hands in the air all the time whereas ds2 is reticent and lacks confidence (although he is very bubbly and cheeky when NOT doing academic stuff)
I feel really bad for him and don't know what I can do to help him
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Worried about ds2's self-esteem, not sure what I can do to help him
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Greensleeves · 04/10/2010 10:31
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