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10 year old ok to wax legs?

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Troisfoisfilles · 11/06/2021 19:21

My DD (10) has seriously hairy legs (and arms) which are very dark.
She is really really conscious of it and is getting teased at school. She won’t even wear skirts, dresses or shorts because of it 😞.
She has asked me if she can start shaving which I am obviously dead set against but do you think it is ok for me to wax them for her?
I didn’t start shaving till about 14 but it’s because I didn’t care and I was a lot lighter colouring than she is.
She’s at the end of year 5 so at an age where she’s starting to really think about her body etc.

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dementedpixie · 11/06/2021 19:23

Why would you say no to shaving but yes to waxing? Doesn't make sense to me

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PickAChew · 11/06/2021 19:24

With very dark hair, you have a long period of obvious stubble before you can wax again. Shaving can be done as often as needed/wanted, is less painful and is something she can learn to manage herself.

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Isthisbatcountry · 11/06/2021 19:25

Why are you "obviously" against shaving? My DD 14 has been using an electric razor for a couple of years now. It avoids any cuts if thats whats worrying you?

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PlanDeRaccordement · 11/06/2021 19:25

Why do think waxing is preferable to shaving? I think shaving is best for preteens as it’s painless and less chance of skin irritation and ingrown hairs flaring up.

Have you also considered hair bleaching for arms and legs?

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RandomCatGenerator · 11/06/2021 19:25

Shaving seems way more sensible. Not painful.

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Ifonlyidknownthen · 11/06/2021 19:26

I'd just show her how to shave properly, why are you against this?

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Grognonne · 11/06/2021 19:27

Yes, what’s the problem with shaving? It’s unlikely she’ll cut herself if you teach her properly how to do it. She’d probably prefer to shave herself than have her mum wax her legs for her.

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CherieBabySpliffUp · 11/06/2021 19:28

An electric razor has to be the best option surely?

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Moonshine11 · 11/06/2021 19:29

As others show how her to shave.
Waxing is painful, you’ll do one maybe two strips and have to end up shaving anyway

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murbblurb · 11/06/2021 19:32

Why not shaving? Doesn't hurt whereas waxing really does. Or are you keen that she gets the message that females must suffer?

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celebgoss101 · 11/06/2021 19:32

What about hair removal cream?

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Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 11/06/2021 19:34

Get a philips lumea, then she can shave and it will keep her legs hair free for much longer. So sad our little girls have to suffer this, but I do understand and remember feeling like that too.

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dementedpixie · 11/06/2021 19:37

Don't think lumea is suitable for children

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HavelockVetinari · 11/06/2021 19:45

Definitely teach her to shave correctly. Alternatively use depilatory cream.

I do second the recommendation of the Phillips Lumea though, it's excellent and shouldn't harm any skin so age isn't an issue.

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dementedpixie · 11/06/2021 19:48

The website says its not intended for use on children under age 18

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SomeLikeItTepid · 11/06/2021 19:49

What about hair removal cream?

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LipstickLou · 11/06/2021 19:50

Too tired to read the whole thread, sorry. But beauty industry professional here. Waxing best. Not painful, she will enjoy the time too if she can have a basic Mani at the same time. No shame in hair, it's just not comfortable in the heat.

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dementedpixie · 11/06/2021 19:50

Shaving is much easier and less messy. No chance of chemical burns either

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CimCardashian · 11/06/2021 19:51

Definitely an electric shaver to start with I reckon.

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Spanglebangle · 11/06/2021 19:55

Why are you so against shaving? My DD has been shaving on and off since she had just turned 8. She dances so her legs are often on show.

I brought her some decent razors and some shaving foam. Showed her how to do it and that was it. She doesn't shave all the time but occasionally she feels like it.

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Spanglebangle · 11/06/2021 19:55

Bought*

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lunar1 · 11/06/2021 19:59

Why can't she shave her legs?

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TheWaif · 11/06/2021 20:00

I don't understand in the slightest why you're so against shaving Confused

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menomary · 11/06/2021 20:03

My interpretation of you being against shaving is that you think 10 should be far too young to worry about teenage issues. I can understand your position to still see her as a child and not rush into all that stuff. I think it's hard for parents to see their little ones seemingly grow up too quickly.

However - and I say this with sensitivity to how you're feeling - the potential scars incurred from that feeling of self-consciousness about her body are far worse than giving her an electric shaver. Our aim is about raising strong confident girls. A shaver will help with that.

To be honest, I don't think she necessarily wants to 'grow up too fast by shaving. I actually think she wants to be like all her other pre-pubescent friends who, presumably, don't have as much body hair yet.

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nc8765 · 11/06/2021 20:03

Lots of posters on here have no idea why shaving darl hairy legs is a bad idea... the dark hairs will become thick and darker and eventually as soon as she shaves, she'll get stubble Regrowth by 5pm!

Waxing is a far better alternative.

My mum started letting me wax my legs around 12, but I see no issues for a 10yr old.

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