My just turned 12yr old has caused damaged to her bed covers intentionally and im struggling to find a reasonable punishment.
Her bedroom is in constant mess despite daily "nagging" to tidy it. Im not unreasonable i expect some mess i just want 90% of it to be put away. Its now at a level where its all her clothes on the floor (about 5 inchs deep) no floor to be seen, rubbish everywhere, and food has been hidden. Her bed covers pilled high rather than made. It doesnt sound bad but i have photos that show its full extent but dont want to publish them as i dont want her privacy exposed. So this is one issue where she wont do as shes told.
But she has slashed her bed sheets with scissors. This has tipped me over the egde. Ive told her we have to talk when shes home, but she has no idea why. So obvisouly doesnt remeber doing it or thinks its a big deal. My period (pre menopause)self is raging (3month late period started today) and whats to rip everything out.of her room and just leave her with the basics. But im trying think more logically. She will be losing her phone, and she is already grounded from not tidying her room (most things we have done in the past dont work).
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Imonlydoingwhatican · 18/05/2021 12:53
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