DS10 is frequently answering back, ignoring or lying when he is asked to stop doing something/do something/turn something off/end a game/etc and, whilst I feel irritated and exasperated by it, DH is infuriated by it and it quickly escalates into a full blown argument between the two of them. At times I think that DS is maybe doing it to push DH's buttons wind him up and often I think he's just trying out his luck. I have spoken to DS about how to respond to someone's reasonable request (eg. to stay sat down during a mealtime, to brush his teeth, to turn off the computer once his game finishes) but it falls on deaf ears. Just in the past two hours he has ignored a number of requests to stay sat down to eat his dinner and to stop stretching over his plate and therefore dragging his sleeve through his food, lied about having brushed his teeth, lied about having carried out piano practice, started a new game of Fortnite when his last game finished and he'd been asked to turn it off, and these things are happening most days. DH has ended up shouting which I HATE and it doesn't work because DS then either laughs or talks back. I've tried talking which also isn't working. I have this sense of dead about the next few years as I feel that this is just going to get worse. Help! What do I do/say???
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