Porn...

[Tiredpanda]

I found porn on Google history about 8 months ago. I had spoke to my 12 year old then and explained that it's ok to be curious and that he had a peek but it's not healthy and it doesn't reflect real life sex. All seemed to be good until I saw the recent pages he logged into on his phone and there was a few porn pages. I didn't fly off the hook and go mad but instead I turned on restrictions on our broadband and the mobile provider. Spam sites didn't work. Then I checked his history again and found he still searched for it and searched the question "why is porn sites not showing" .

He doesn't know I have access to his phone, if I mentioned I looked through, he'll probably change his password.

I regret not putting restrictions on earlier before this could even happen but I honestly trusted him and didn't want to make him feel too restricted where he would seek behind my back and start lying.

I know it's normal to be curious but I'm worried.

Anyone have any advice what I should do. Should I talk to him? But I did last time and he still searched for it again

[peajotter]

I think part of the condition of having a phone should be that you are allowed to look through it until a certain age. It prevents grooming and cyber bullying. On the other hand he will always be able to hide stuff if he wants to. Looking forward to hearing other people’s advice on this one....

[HugeAckmansWife]

I have a similar issue but my DS has absolutely no expectation of privacy. I don't find the filters very effective so I have simply told him I can and will check and there will be consequences if I find anything. I have explained that healthy curiosity is to be expected but these sites are not showing anything that he might reasonably expect to ever replicate and they are not suitable for his age. Absolutely no way would he have any device I can't have full access to.

[DogsandBoysmeanMud]

If you check their phones, as I would have done, they use 'in private browsing'. Then they use the dark web. Kids are way more knowledgeable than most parents about how to find stuff than most parents.
Just communicate, don't let them keep phones on their rooms after a certain time and try and see what they are up to!

[Delectable]

Found this puzzling www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-57143746

[Lorw]

Just put a block on the WiFi? To stop over 18 sites from being accessed.

[DogsandBoysmeanMud]

@Lorw

Just put a block on the WiFi? To stop over 18 sites from being accessed.

If they are using a phone, they just use data!

[190190tnt]

My DS is 12 and found he had looked at Pornhub website, he's always been a bit young for his age and not very street wise so was not expecting this! Have spoken to him(not had a go or told him off) but I see he has looked again. Am worried as friend told me her DH looked at porn as a young boy and became addicted to it and still is! I keep his phone at night and have blocked searches for pornhub, but guess he will find ways around this. Does anyone know of a book/video/guide for talking about this with him? I feel he is just agreeing with everything I'm saying but will probably still do it...

[190190tnt]

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[essentialhealing]

@Lorw

Just put a block on the WiFi? To stop over 18 sites from being accessed.

Still accessible on Twitter and Reddit for example