Porn...

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Tiredpanda Wed 02-Sep-20 21:43:13

I found porn on Google history about 8 months ago. I had spoke to my 12 year old then and explained that it's ok to be curious and that he had a peek but it's not healthy and it doesn't reflect real life sex. All seemed to be good until I saw the recent pages he logged into on his phone and there was a few porn pages. I didn't fly off the hook and go mad but instead I turned on restrictions on our broadband and the mobile provider. Spam sites didn't work. Then I checked his history again and found he still searched for it and searched the question "why is porn sites not showing" .

He doesn't know I have access to his phone, if I mentioned I looked through, he'll probably change his password.

I regret not putting restrictions on earlier before this could even happen but I honestly trusted him and didn't want to make him feel too restricted where he would seek behind my back and start lying.

I know it's normal to be curious but I'm worried.

Anyone have any advice what I should do. Should I talk to him? But I did last time and he still searched for it again sad

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peajotter Thu 03-Sep-20 10:07:05

I think part of the condition of having a phone should be that you are allowed to look through it until a certain age. It prevents grooming and cyber bullying. On the other hand he will always be able to hide stuff if he wants to. Looking forward to hearing other people’s advice on this one....

HugeAckmansWife Wed 16-Sep-20 15:51:15

I have a similar issue but my DS has absolutely no expectation of privacy. I don't find the filters very effective so I have simply told him I can and will check and there will be consequences if I find anything. I have explained that healthy curiosity is to be expected but these sites are not showing anything that he might reasonably expect to ever replicate and they are not suitable for his age. Absolutely no way would he have any device I can't have full access to.

DogsandBoysmeanMud Wed 16-Sep-20 16:00:00

If you check their phones, as I would have done, they use 'in private browsing'. Then they use the dark web. Kids are way more knowledgeable than most parents about how to find stuff than most parents.
Just communicate, don't let them keep phones on their rooms after a certain time and try and see what they are up to!

Delectable Mon 31-May-21 22:06:22

Found this puzzling www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-57143746

Lorw Thu 03-Jun-21 17:08:43

Just put a block on the WiFi? To stop over 18 sites from being accessed.

DogsandBoysmeanMud Sat 05-Jun-21 13:36:39

Lorw

Just put a block on the WiFi? To stop over 18 sites from being accessed.


If they are using a phone, they just use data!

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