I find this unbelievably depressing but DD1 who is generally a healthy, happy 12YO who loves cooking and food, is an ideal weight for her age and height and, until recently, seemed very comfortable in her own skin, seems to be developing body image issues.
We went out to choose a swimsuit today for our holiday and she got really sad about the whole thing. She didn't like anything she saw and when I asked if she'd like to try a bikini (one of those sporty ones like a crop top and little shorts) she said they were for people who were skinny or didn't care what they looked like in bikinis and felt comfortable whatever. I'm, perhaps naively, quite shocked - I've never heard her say anything like that about herself and we've always been careful what we say about body size/shape around the kids, there's no talk of diets and we don't comment on people's body shape. I've noticed her talking a bit more about skinniness since she started secondary and saying there are girls there who talk a lot about diets etc but I didn't realise how much of an issue it had become. When we got home and she tried on the swimsuit we ended up buying, she got really teary and sad about the whole thing. I hate the thought of her not being able to just splash about and have fun in an unselfconscious way as she always has until now.
I've tried talking to her about it and asking what she means by skinny, who she is comparing herself with, reminded her that she is the right weight and size for her height and that swimwear is meant to fit her not vice versa, but nothing I say seems to make any difference.
WTF can I say to start addressing this and make her feel better? Would dearly love some advice
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Crap, it's begun. DD12 saying she's 'not skinny' and crying about swimwear - any advice?
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Fluffylaflooff · 20/07/2020 18:57
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