Hi all
I am looking for some words of wisdom on how to support my lovely 10 year old through what has been and is a really challenging time.
Covid 19 aside, in the last six months she has lost her grandma, her uncle and I was ill and hospitalised for a period of time, and she has been so resilient and mature about all of these situations, then covid 19 comes along, she is pulled out of school, after studying for her SATs, not knowing if she will see her friends that she has known for the past six years again...
Again, she is coping well, but there have been some significant changes to her behaviour... she is starting to be cheeky, she is talking in a baby voice, she grabs onto me and grabs my skin and demands hugs, but physically hurting me in the process, and she is now resident in my bed at nights.
I'm not at my end of despair, I just want to be able to help her verbalise what is going on, or at least feel safe, I don't know what to do to help her... The only time she seems relaxed is when she is watching youtube or playing games, so I have extended her screen time at the moment.
At the moment i have a couple of options open (in my mind)
- I try to make her life more structured into a school day style timetable (not a teacher by trade though)
- Myself and her father co-parent, I discuss with him lifting her very restrictive phone and device rules a little to allow her more ability to communicate with the outside world and her friends, who are all on whats app, facetime and tik tok
I would love some more ideas or just some general advice, she's an only child, and quite mature in a lot of ways, but not socially, shes always been the very youngest in class and this shows where she is socially in comparison with her peers, she hasn't earned our trust to be let loose online, as she has gone against the rules on several occasions (which is fine, i expect it)
I just want to be able to help her feel safer, happier or just ease the anxiety for her.
Sorry for the long post.