Cyber bullying?

[GwenCooper81]

DD is 12. She's become quite withdrawn as the days gone on Finally she's told me about some messages that she's been recieving on SM.
Seems that it's an anon account. Basically name calling and nastiness. I've screen shot all the messages and reassured Dd that she's not Ugly, thick, fat, broke or smelly 😡
I'm fucking fuming. She has a fair idea of who it is. I've blocked the anon account and reported it. I've also blocked the account of the person she thinks it is.
What next?? Do I go to school or will the laugh it off as normal pre-teen behaviour?!. My knee jerk reaction is to want to kick their heads in for being such cows to my sweet and lovely Dd. Obviously that's neither legal or helpful so I've come on here to ask for advice please.

[Sittingonthefence83]

That's awful, your poor DD. I don't blame you for how you feel. I don't think the school would laugh it off as such but without any proof there probably isn't much they can do?!

You have totally done the right thing with blocking them, just keep an eye out for anymore now, I suppose that's all you can do. Sorry I'm not much help.

[Wildorchidz]

I think you need to be very proactive at checking her phone yourself very very regularly.
She is very young to be on social media.

[GwenCooper81]

Thank you both. Nope, probably nothing they can do. I just want to raise her confidence so she can deal with it herself.
I know I know about the SM. It's bloody Tiktok. She's no longer on it.
I'm so bloody mad.

[GwenCooper81]

By deal with it herself I don't mean not speaking to school. I mean learning to stick up for herself.

[Wildorchidz]

She is too young. It’s as simple as that.
Look at the adults who have difficulty dealing with social media.
Did she have your permission to have TikTok?

[GwenCooper81]

She is. It's gone now. Yes she had my permission. I'm on it as well and stupidly thought I was keeping a close eye. Obviously not.

[fruitypancake]

Yes poor dd, make sure she isn't taking her phone into her bedroom at nighttime. I would go to the school and explain why your dd thinks she knows who it is, that way they are aware and can keep a record and look out for any problems in school. As long as you say it's a suspicion only

[GwenCooper81]

Thank you. No, no phones in bedrooms. It's just horrible. I know I'm biased but she's such a lovely girl. She needs to toughen up but I fear this won't be the end of it :(

[fruitypancake]

It absolutely sucks.. they do take this sort of thing v seriously in schools ( secondary teacher) I would try and keep her off it as much as possible. Easier said than done I know

[GwenCooper81]

Thank you. Yes, trying to distract her has been a trial lol. She's pretty active so generally out on her bike or on the trampoline, the weather has put pay to that today though. I'm glad they take it seriously. Who shall I ask to speak to? I'm presuming form tutor?. Thank you.