My daughter has just turned 12 and got her first phone a month ago.
We moved to a new area at the same time and she started a secondary school with no one from her primary.
I had no intention of allowing her WassApp but her class and year group have group chats for homework etc so I felt I should so she isn’t left out.
Anyway, since then she has been spending hours and hours on WassApp with her old friend group from Primary. There is one child who has unrestricted access and seems to spend most of the time creating group chats and adding lots of children we don’t know to it.
Looking through my daughter she phone she has been chatting with boys we don’t know and are not from school. I was very concerned as one became abusive (name calling) she told me she’s blocked him but she didn’t so had lied.
We use family sharing so her phone shuts down at 9pm every night and I have also just placed a 3hr time limit on Wassap per day. This has sent my DD into what I can only describe as a massive emotional meltdown. Crying, screaming - this has been going on for two whole days. She is upstairs in her room wailing so loudly, I’m sure the neighbours can hear. It’s ruining family life.
I am well aware that I can just simply remove the App but I want to give her the opportunity to show me she can be trusted. I’m just not sure how to move forward.
She has a year of huge change and has been amazing throwing herself into her new school& friends. I feel sorry for her but at the same time I want to be a good parent when it comes to her phone.
Sorry this is so long. I appreciate any experience of this and advice. Thank you.
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The2Ateam · 02/11/2019 09:37
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