My daughter is Y6 going to high school in September. She’s been at the same vipers nest of a primary class for 7 years – some of the boys are as bad as the girls for bitching, undermining and just general unkindness. And it’s only got worse as they’ve moved higher up school with the advent of mobile phones, Insta, Watsapp groups etc.
She’s avoided the worst of it, I’ve still had to comfort and console her regarding hurtful comments and reactions she's received, but lately I’ve had to speak to her several times about the way she behaves to other people. And I’ve drawn her attention to messages she’s sent that are less than kind.
She’s not going to the same high school as her primary classmates, but I really don’t want her taking the same dodgy principles to the next setting. She’s met some of her new classmates (they have been drawn from all over the area so her form is made up of girls who all come from many different primaries), on several playdates and they all seem lovely. They have a little chat group online and have been conversing for a couple of months now – very supportive, friendly and positive. And then she goes back to ‘I was asking Lia, not you…’…’Talk to the hand’…..’Do you even have a brain?’ type stuff.
My daughter very quickly assimilates to her environment, and I’ve seen what a positive effect being out of, and away from a toxic environment does for her. But I’m worried she’ll need help to adjust, so that when stressed or feeling overwhelmed she doesn’t revert to the unkind behaviours that she’s been used to.
Our family are kind to each other (mostly – we do have a 17 year old son, who’s a bit stand offish and dismissive at times), but we’re supportive of each other, and it’s disappointing to see that example doesn’t filter down to situations when she’s with her peers.
Are there any books, movies, other sources/influences that deal with positive friendship modelling, as well as us as a family continuing to? Any other advice?
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blueskysmiling · 16/07/2019 15:52
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